101 – Relationships

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All relationships add up to 100%.
Relationships work best and last longest when they’re balanced.

I learned everything there is to know about Madonna/Elvis/The Beatles.
My desire is to have a 100% relationship with him/them. 
And their desire is also to have a 100% relationship with me.
Only their 100% is about a million times less than mine!
So their idea of a balanced relationship is to smile at me as they walk by.
Mine is to marry them or at least date them. And I’d ask them a lot of questions and tell them a lot of things about me.
But they don’t want that extent of a relationship.
So it effectively is an unbalanced situation. 99% on my part and 1% (at most!) on theirs.
And that simply doesn’t last.
After all, I get a smile from everyone I walk by — just by smiling myself.

Same with my car, my Television, my ‘partner’, and almost every thing in my life.
If I have to fill my tires with air every time I use the car…
If I constantly spend time and money on repairs, at some point I get rid of it.

I not only have to cajole you to go out, I also have to find a place to go/movie to see. I have to figure the timing and ways to reorganize my time so we can finally go out, and you say, “Fine, whatever, I don’t care where we go/what movie we see.”
How long is that relationship going to last? I can get that anywhere!

For things to change put more effort (or less!) into that relationship and see how quickly it happens.

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