30 – Ever-Changing Relationships

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We are a relationship, ever-changing.

Me and my body, ever-changing.
My and my partner, ever-changing.
Me and my parents, ever-changing.
Me and my job, ever-changing.

One of our first relationships is between our ‘self’ and the ‘world’.
Mistakes (Falling down as we learn to walk etc.) are not forgiven, but rather dismissed as nothing-to-forgive.
Learning/change is normal.
Making mistakes is NOT viewed as making mistakes but simply trial and error in our efforts to create and understand ‘cause-and-effect’.

As children, the unstated assumption is that you’re learning.
Yet, as an adult, there is no longer any allowance for change/learning.

The unstated becomes “You should know better!” etc. Glances, facial expressions of disapproval and all other silent messages adults give each other and themselves!

In this ever-changing world I have difficulty trying to repeat what was once successful. The ‘cause’ is the same but the ‘effect’ is not.
We are a relationship …ever-changing!

It’s this very silent assumption that nothing changes that causes discouragement.

Change your actions in some small, safe ‘relationship’ and see what happens.

You and food.
You and Television.
You and …

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