The very first satellite was a simple radio transmitter sending “Beep, Beep” (1%)

It took many huge radio telescopes to track that signal. (99%)

Today we ‘position’ satellites costing multi-billions in the sky. (99%)

And almost any simple television dish can pickup those signals. (1%)

In both cases a certain amount of work has to be done. (100%)

So if you want to succeed at something, (business, family, writing a book, etc.)

either you do the work or the other person has to.

Quite often looking around for something on a web site is too much work.

So I just quit trying.

They obviously did not do the work, so I would have to.

Because it always has to add up to 100%

In whatever situation you are in, if you do not do most of the work (99%)

chances are nobody else will want to.

If things are not working out for you, ask your self how much work you are doing.

Then do enough to bring it to 99%

And just watch how quickly people do the remaining 1%

But very effective!

Unless you dismiss it without trying it.

Right now in your life, you can dramatically improve things.

Think of a subject / situation (family or business) and ask yourself:

Should I Start doing this?

Should I Stop doing this?

Should I Continue doing this?

Then act accordingly.

It really is this simple.

However, it doesn’t work until you… do it!

Then stop doing that.

My three dictums are (in order!)

First, get alive, (Plan A)

Then stay alive, (Plan B)

Now you can refine.

Get everything started / alive, before you spend dis-proportionate time refining.

Then make sure it stays alive, before you spend time refining.

Finally, you can refine.

And then it’s important to do so!

If the kitchen becomes clean-room quality but the dining room has bugs/rats, then refining the kitchen is a waste, no matter how easily you can justify the need. Clean-room is too much in that context.

Getting married, having children and starting a business are usually invisible victims of Refining before getting alive.

If you are stuck somewhere, go back to basics:

First, get alive.

Or are influenced by you. Inside Out.

Obvious. So why say this?

Because those things from the ‘outside’ you don’t want to influence you, can easily be eliminated.

Use your inner understanding of how it is when you – the inner you – are the dominant force. You already do this in many, many things you neutralize so effectively using the inner self to influence the outer world. Inside Out.

If you are doing it for anything at all, it can be applied to everything else.

Usually the length of time something’s been happening implies it would take more than what you have, to change it.

Not true!

You already use your inner self to prevail in those things where you do prevail. Just apply that already successful thinking / attitude, to whatever comes from the exterior and dominates you.

Someone calls to ask you to go out. You don’t want to. Yet you normally give in and go out.

Think of how you influence something you do influence, and apply that to your next invite. See how easily it changes to inner – influencing – outer. And do what you want.

Start with something small and become an Inside Out person.

Since he was asking, and already doing shows and Birthdays, I said “Go for it!”

Several weeks later I asked him, “So, how’s your new business!”

“Oh,” he said, “I was not able to start it.”

Why not?

“Well, I called the city to get a permit to store inventory in my home and they said my area was not licensed for commercial ventures.”

What inventory do you have?

“Balloons and stuff for my Magic.”

Magic happens when you cause people to look somewhere else than where the real action is. Then the event seems ‘magical’ because there is no apparent source to that event.

This person was a Magician because he looked only where he found a reason not to do his business.

As a result, doing business seems magical / impossible.

People perform magic on themselves when they look at only one side of things, and convince themselves what they want to do would take a miracle / magic.

Life is a Magic show when you look at only one side of things.

Magic is not needed when you look at BOTH sides and then decide.

On the hour drive we would freely speak with no chance of being misunderstood by others.

As he was extremely smart I always appreciated how he made me think.

Once he said “If a person is good, then you give them a raise and/or promotion.”

I thought about it wondering what was so very profound about that.

A few minutes later he said “On the other hand if they are no good, you give them some money and fire them.”

Again I thought about it, and still nothing.

Then he said “So how come people are good but not that good, and bad but not that bad, and you never quite know what to do with them.”

I smiled and said “Paul, stop talking about you and me.”

That is what reality is all about as compared to thoughts or plans.

Not black and white. Grey.

There’s a saying: If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.

When you believe you have everything planned / thought out, add just one more thing.

Add ‘grey’ to your black and white and you’ll be better prepared for what will happen.

2. Select an expert in that subject (In your mind)

3. Explain your problem to that expert. (Do it  = results)

4. Has that cleared up your problem? (Don’t discount it because it’s too easy!)

5. What does the expert say the solution is.

6. Has that cleared up your problem?

7. What is your counter statement.

8. What is source of counter statement. (Parents, school, etc.)

9. Is source still believable.

10. Does that clear up the problem?

If this does not work then definitely go to: Mental Doodles  8 &  45

One of these two is clearly what you need to consider.

Maybe a hand shake.

So just how do you go about influencing each other?

Verbally and Mentally.

Someone says something and you Mentally confirm it.

“You should lose some weight then you’ll feel better about yourself.”

And you silently (Mentally) agree.

You give away your power when you reverse reality like this.

How much more power you have if you just reverse it back to reality.

Reality is

“I will lose weight when I feel better about myself.”

“My job would be much better if that person stopped bothering me”

Becomes

“When I don’t let that person bother me anymore my job will be much better.”

What keeps you from getting what you want?

What prevents you from having more money?

Listen to your answer, and then reverse it.

Why wait three days to answer his email?

Because he waited three days to answer mine!

Why are you mean to him?

Because he was mean to me!

But do you want him to continue to take three days to answer your emails or continue to be mean to you?

Then why not do what you want rather than mirror what the other person wants.

“Reflect” what you do want. No matter what the other person does!

Next time you find yourself being a mirror make sure it’s reflecting / reinforcing something you want more of in your life.

Or, don’t be a mirror.

Cut your hair?

After they need it.

You always wash your hands after you need to.

After they get dirty.

Not before.

OK, so?

Some things are better done before.

Like with dirty hands, the cumulative is slow but absolute. (#73 Killing Frogs)

As with any decision, your options automatically cancel themselves as time goes by. The idea is to make a decision before there are no options left.

After: you are forced to accept.

Before: you can choose.

Think of an important thing you’ve been putting off. (As usual!)

Now make a decision.

Before you absolutely must.

And before all options are gone.