Not died. Committed suicide.

OK, so?

Well over 100,000,000 people knew and liked him.

Liked what he did.

What he said.

How he was.

Again, so?

He would literally have to ignore the over one hundred million people who liked him, to succeed in convincing himself he was not liked.

Had no future. Was finished.

Despite over one hundred million differing opinions.

We are not talking about you here, are we?

You are not ignoring the many, many people around you who like you,

so you can maintain your opinion of being not as good as you ‘should’ be.

Then again, even if one hundred million people do think you are fine, it simply does not count if you don’t think so.

The change starts in you and not in the possible one hundred million people who like you. Or would like you if they ever met you.

Think about it!

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You only wish reading one Doodle did it!

It’s a subconscious cross-index of select Doodles, to

side-step your filters, that gets you what you want.

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To reinforce this, read at least 2:   If you Read only one: 100 Ransom Notes

# 11 Feedback – 14 Eliminating Triggers – 21 Interpretation – 26 Discounting Self

40 So What! – 54 Self – 79 Truth Time – 99 Perfection! – 113 Success

146 Always Right – 197 Obstacles, Your Key to Success – 273 Propaganda

319 Look Back – 327 Rejection

You need at least two points.

OK, so?

Well, you also need two events.

Two. Not just one.

How many things now influence you based on experiencing just one event. 

One time. 

One point.

The Boston Marathon comes to mind.

So does any one-time act of terror.

And that event last week, …whenever you read this!

The reverse is also true.

If you are continuously on a line that has many, many points on it,

what exactly do you think tomorrow brings if you stay on that line.

Hmmm, let’s see now, there’s more than two points, so I can easily say:

Exactly the same.

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You only wish reading one Doodle did it!

It’s a subconscious cross-index of select Doodles, to

side-step your filters, that gets you what you want.

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To reinforce this, read at least 2:   If you Read only one: 165 Cause & Effects

# 7 Disaster – 33 Solving a 5 – 35 One + One = Two! – 40 So What!

68 Concentration – 79 Truth Time – 81 Second Impressions

124 One Person – 131 Once – 252 Threat – 314 Almost

341 Possible vs Probable – 347 Boston!

He knew precisely how much he needed, when and for exactly how long.

I felt bad for him, not because he didn’t have the money but because he knew his situation exactly.

There were no unthought-of places where he misplaced some money. No loans he could get. Nothing. He was an expert at handling money. Which made it very hard when he ran out.

OK, so?

Well, I am sort of sloppy with money so there is always some-where, some-how  that I can find the money I need.

Same with apologizing, thanking, brainstorming, etc.

I am sloppy, so that means I can always add some additional effort and, since it would improve whatever I needed to add to, it almost always works /solves things.

What things are you sloppy with?

Relax, those are the very things that you can, when needed, simply pay a little bit more attention to and improve /solve.

The only time you have a problem is like my friend, Steve, when you have exhausted every single thing and it still needs ‘more’. That is a problem.

Not when you’re sloppy.

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You only wish reading one Doodle would do it!

It’s a subconscious cross-index of select different Doodles

to side-step your filters, that gets you what you want.

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To reinforce this, read at least 2:     If you Read only one: 99 Perfection!

# 7 Disaster – 61 Styles – 86 Don’t be Yourself! – 125 A Clumsy Self Image 

146 Always Right – 236 Part-of-Me – 256  99 is Fine – 314 Almost – 336 Lost & Found

I was in Antarctica looking at Penguins walking all in-a-row.

Once, the first one tried to jump over a fairly large rock, failed, fell to the side,

then got up and continued.

The second one? Did the exact same thing.

And the third, and the fourth, and so on.

OK, so?

Actually a Penguin is a survivor.

No matter what happens to the one before him, he survived.

So to repeat exactly is to survive.

Again, so?

Well, that’s what you do.

You validate whatever you do because it causes you (Your Personality) to survive.

To admit to any limiting or inappropriate behavior also means something is wrong with the construct of the personality

and that admission attacks your survival instinct itself.

To understand this is important.

Even if the end result is not what you truly desire, the very methodology was chosen as necessary-for-survival and therefore must continue.

Which, strangely enough, is the exact understanding you need, in order to change and become more efficient at survival, and at getting what you really want.

That’s when the next step can be taken without creating defense.

There is no need to destroy what you have to get what you want.

Pain and anguish are not necessary ingredients in life.

When you developed

your methodology of survival /success you were young, tremendously inexperienced and followed others. Which is no longer necessary.

You are not a Penguin.

You can now explore options to enhance your effectiveness without demeaning your self /personality.

Remember, Life has no remote, you have to actually do it.

The Doodles below are specifically chosen to help do this!

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You only wish reading one Doodle would do it!

It’s a subconscious cross-index of select different Doodles

to side-step’ your filters, that gets you what you want.

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To reinforce this, read at least 2: If you Read only one: 128 And-And

# 3 Cumulative Knowledge – 7 Disaster – 12 Change – 22 Attitude – 25 How Old Are You?

43 Desire – 46 Always – 54 Self – 57 Helicopter – 74 Dictating Your Miracle – 79 Truth Time

83 Being Wrong – 96 Habits – 118 Right! – 140 Making Progress – 176 “1-2-3”

206 A Good Time – 209 One Second or One Year – 212 Attitude Part 2 – 231 Statement

255 Prepare, Defend – 318 Thoughtful Ransoms – 346 Crazy / Different – 369 Sunset

We usually ‘punish’ ourselves to relieve the burden of this guilt.

Once punished we no longer feel that initial guilt.

OK, so?

You no longer feel guilty for the initial action.

Now look at your next action, the one that de-guilted you.

It by itself is now what you are looking at.

You no longer include the original cause /guilt because it’s been solved, remember?

Again OK, so?

You overheat water which spills.

A ‘good’ housewife does not do this (Guilt)

So you pull the pan off the stove … and burn your fingers, of course (Punishment)

Now that guilt is gone /punished, you are left with burnt fingers.

A ‘good’ housewife does not burn her fingers. (Guilt!)

So you rush to the fridge to put some butter on your fingers.

And, knock the milk over. Of course. (Punishment)

So that guilt, burnt finger tips, is gone.

Which now leaves you with spilled milk.

A ‘good’ housewife does not spill… etc.

To solve this cycle, just

S T O P

It’s the only way to cut the cycle.

Burnt toast, baby crying, phone rings etc. ?

S T O P

Cut the cycle.

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You only wish that reading one Doodle once would do it!

It’s the subconscious cross-indexing of selected different Doodles that

‘side-steps’ your filters to give you what you want.

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To reinforce this, read at least 2 below: If you Read only one

# 7 Disaster – 27 Responses – 53 Guilt – 75 Same – 99 Perfection!

146 Always Right – 369 Sunset

So, why did you do it?

Because you did not know you would regret it.

Because you did not have the experience.

So you could not know you would then regret it.

Which means you learned something.

How does one learn anything?

By doing.

Then, the odd time you look back and Regret, say “Look what I have learned here.

I did not know this. Now I do.”

‘I learned’ rather than ‘I regret.’

Because, truly there are no regrets.

Or errors, or mistakes, or…

Again, if you actually knew, you would not have done that.

So they are all learnings.

No Regrets.

To reinforce this, read at least 2 below: 

# 20 The ‘Gift’ of Knowledge – 21 Interpretation – 25 How Old Are You? – 35 One + One = Two!

40 So What! – 83 Being Wrong – 98 Third Time – 113 Success – 118 Right! – 152 Just Do It

196 Past, Present & Future – 199 Everything – 345 Life is…

is simple. Just substitute Muscles when you think Emotions. What happens if you tie your arm in a sling and never remove it. Ever. Why, your arm quickly becomes useless. When you hide an Emotional aspect and ‘never’ expose it, it also becomes useless. Which leads to further hiding. And further uselessness. OK, so? Welll, the problem is, once you have a useless arm, it doesn’t stop there. Because anything that might push against your arm would then hurt you. So you retreat even more, just in case. This keeps up until one day you have an Emotional collapse. You actually have two decision times. One is when you collapse. Hide it again or open up and take the (initial) pain. The other is ‘now’ when you can exercise that emotional arm a bit, and then a bit more, and then a… It’s going to happen anyways, why not now and in a more controlled manner, with far less pain? Exercise that arm! ————————————————— To reinforce this, read any 2 below: # 7 Disaster – 10 Progress It – 14 Eliminating Triggers – 24 The Wedge – 40 So What! 92 Strength – 108 Emotions – 112 Emotions Part 2

It helps smooth the way, Grease the wheels, Oil the machinery, etc.

Ok so?

Well, there are many, many other ways to do this.

A smile,

A joke,

A rest break,

A change of subject, etc.

All of these help smooth the way.

If you have trouble getting things done easily

maybe you need to ‘bribe’ those around you…

with a smile, a break, a joke, etc.

Too easy?

Note: Last week in Dalian, China, I put my shoe and my watch on the table while negotiating.

I made my point and reduced the tension at the same time.

True, that takes some practice, but it does show the idea above is valid.

(And inspired this Mental Doodle.)

These are Related:

# 7 Disaster – 27 Responses – 160 Combination – 235 Ball Bearings – 289 Don’t /Can’t

Realize this, lower your expectations and let things develop.

Oh, you’ll still date some clunkers and also many more agreeable people.

Then take a big chance and lower your expectations even more:

Open self to possible harm (AKA: Former bad experiences) and find someone really suitable.

How about it?

Are you still holding valiantly for someone to appear and meet all your expectations?

Take the person with the most potential and work with them.

The same applies with a business partner:

the more you invest in each other, the more you create in common, the longer you’ll be together.

These are Related:

# 7 Disaster – 10 Progress It – 12 Change – 19 Expectations – 20 The ‘Gift’ of Knowledge

21 Interpretation – 35 One + One = Two! – 37 Or Its Equivalent – 273 Propaganda

Yet, with complete respect, you ‘need’ to see this from another point of view.

An alternate view does NOT negate the outrage.

However it does help somewhat in understanding, which is what is needed now.

Choose one below — keep in mind the Boston event while you read it — help ease your self.

7 Disaster – 27 Responses – 35 One + One = Two! – 40 So What! – 68 Concentration

124 One Person – 194 F.E.A.R. – 229 Security – 252 Threat – 253 Just-in-Case

255 Prepare, Defend – 314 Almost – 318 Thoughtful Ransoms – 341 Possible vs Probable