You are a despicable, insensitive, non-respectful person!

However

If you Pray while you Smoke

you are a fine, religious, upstanding person.

People can actually see which one you are.

You can.

So can they.

OK, so?

Ever wonder why sometimes you do yet sometimes you don’t achieve something you really want?

That’s why.

People are not all that anxious to help you Smoke while you Pray.

Their instincts guide them away from you.

This is a tricky one!

How to change yourself such that you get the help, advice, encouragement of those around you, is a process.

On the other hand, consider how long you’ve tried without changing your Smoke /Pray attitude.

It’s actually faster to spend time …changing yourself.

The Doodles below are specifically chosen to help you do this.

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You only wish reading one Doodle would do it!

It’s a subconscious cross-index of select different Doodles

to side-step’ your filters, that gets you what you want.

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To reinforce this, read at least 2:   If you Read only one: 86 Don’t be Yourself!

# 22 Attitude – 46 Always – 57 Helicopter – 96 Habits – 118 Right!

161 Are you Perfect? – 166 Inside Out – 198 Repetition – 199 Everything – 212 Attitude Part 2

237 Let Go! – 242 Gentleman – 267 Strangers & Ships – 270 Hamburgers – 274 Lawyers & Virgins

348 Volume Control – 353 Oil, Grease, etc. – 357 Recipes 

I memorized more data in “school” of course.

But it’s the Kitchen Table that still seems most ‘authentic’ to me.

Yes, yes, yes… the web, Facebook, LinkedIn, etc. are the ‘new’ way.

But most are simply not-kitchen-table.

Facebook is close…

with super personal updates “I just went to the store…”

LinkedIn too… Until they make it more universal.

aka: impersonal, like school: Sit down, be quiet and memorize this data.

OK, so?

Well is your resume just memorized recitals of previous data?

Or more like Kitchen Table.

Just include what you learned while at each job.

Bingo! Kitchen Table.

(If you read resumes, you know what a bonus this is.)

Date ‘hunt’ starts at the local meeting place /bar /dance, etc.

After a bit of ritual the clever ones go into Kitchen Table speak.

And usually end up with a date.

Look around and see where you can add more Kitchen Table.

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To reinforce this, read any 2 below:

# 61 Styles – 99 Perfection! – 110 Nothing – 116 Facade – 160 Combination

162 Consider the Source – 222 The Difference – 295 Out-of-The-Box – 357 Recipes

Here’s 10 Random Thoughts.

(Just to be different.)

1. You change at 7 year intervals.

Think how your thoughts /actions changed at 14 – 21 – 28 – 35 – 42 – 49 – 56 – 63 etc.

…give or take a year, either side.

So now you know when your next change is.    (All other Doodles in Change Category)

2. When Freedom exists, Equality doesn’t.

If I’m free to work more /harder than you, I earn more than you.    Insight Category

3. I can’t forgive you too quickly…

lest you think that it was not all that serious /important for me.    Façade Category

4. Sloppy at Money means you are always variously broke or in trouble.

It also means that you can always find some. And, in fact, you do!   Wealth Category

5. The biggest break-out-of-the-box: Allow yourself to be wrong.  Personal Growth Category

6. A totally open mind is open to all… including useless and circular.

To have any value or meaning YOU must choose /select /add /discern. Limitations Category

7. How extreme does your example have to be so you can prove your point. Worry Category

8. Every rule has its exception.

Also known as: The Future      Limitations Category

9. If you trade $1 you each still have $1.

Trade an idea then each of you now have 2.     Wealth Category

10.  Relax. You can’t say the wrong thing to the right person.    Communications Category

is simple. Just substitute Muscles when you think Emotions. What happens if you tie your arm in a sling and never remove it. Ever. Why, your arm quickly becomes useless. When you hide an Emotional aspect and ‘never’ expose it, it also becomes useless. Which leads to further hiding. And further uselessness. OK, so? Welll, the problem is, once you have a useless arm, it doesn’t stop there. Because anything that might push against your arm would then hurt you. So you retreat even more, just in case. This keeps up until one day you have an Emotional collapse. You actually have two decision times. One is when you collapse. Hide it again or open up and take the (initial) pain. The other is ‘now’ when you can exercise that emotional arm a bit, and then a bit more, and then a… It’s going to happen anyways, why not now and in a more controlled manner, with far less pain? Exercise that arm! ————————————————— To reinforce this, read any 2 below: # 7 Disaster – 10 Progress It – 14 Eliminating Triggers – 24 The Wedge – 40 So What! 92 Strength – 108 Emotions – 112 Emotions Part 2

– 27 Responses – 71 Nice 79 Truth Time – 86 Don’t be Yourself! – 111 ABC’s of Life – 114 Darts – 146 Always Right 176 “1-2-3” 199 Everything – 222 The Difference – 231 Statement – 277 Water on Floor – 280 Filters

Even one tenth of a second off and you might well lose.

Many believe life is a Sprint race, so the moment they make a couple of mistakes they realize they won’t win and change races. Again.

Ok, so?

Well, consider

most ‘races’ in life as Marathons.

It’s not so very important how well you start the race.

Even if you make mistakes.

Far more relevant how you pace yourself.

And, most important of all, if you continue long after your initial desire fades.

I read so very many resumes that state just how great the individual is and how they saved the company or increased sales dramatically.

My response is always “If you did so well over and over again, why do you always leave?”

The success you want comes at the end of the Marathon and not by doing a lot of Sprints.

Reality check: Happy with your Results?

These are Related:

# 21 Interpretation – 46 Always – 49 Sharks – 98 Third Time – 99 Perfection! – 106 Plan B

107 Iron – 113 Success – 114 Darts – 119 Gears – 164 20%

I point out my flaws before you do, so I am ‘safe’.

I deride myself first, just in case you might.

Listing my Boo Boos is survival for me.

Do you like people who always do this?

Isn’t it somewhat of a burden to have to constantly reassure someone who always seems uncertain even in something they have been doing all their life.

Saaay, you don’t do this, right?

These are Related:

# 26 Discounting Self – 47 Gold Stamps – 53 Guilt – 71 Nice – 96 Habits

125 A Clumsy Self Image – 146 Always Right

That’s when Me Messages come into play,

If you don’t like what people say to you then rather than attack or keep silent, try a Me Message:

“I feel bad /hurt about what you are saying to me now.”

And then no matter how they reply, just repeat.

“That may be so, but I just want you to know I feel hurt about what you are saying to me now.”

NOT “I don’t appreciate, I dislike, etc.”

More like “I hurt because of this.”

There is no defense when no one attacks.

And if you send a Me Message you are NOT attacking.

You are not even defending — which is a form of attack.

You simply state your feelings of hurt. Period.

Again, Too simple?

Really?

Without even trying it?

These are Related:

# 7 Disaster – 13 Changing Change – 27 Responses – 105 Silent Additions

162 Consider the Source – 267 Strangers & Ships – 320 Description vs Judgment

I must wash my hands before eating = Barrier

When camping you would get very hungry!

No eating at drive-ins. etc.

Our Filters define us whereas our Barriers limit us.

Ok, so?

The other day I went to work without realizing I had not combed my hair.

I smiled because that Barrier (I ‘always’ comb my hair) just became a Filter.

Allow these simple things to happen and other ‘unexpected’ things follow.

Especially good if you want to progress faster than you already are.

Too simple?

Everything is simple. It’s the cumulative that works wonders. (See # 176 “1 – 2 – 3“)

These are Related:

# 11 Feedback – 12 Change – 14 Eliminating Triggers – 40 So What! – 50 Limits – 79 Truth Time

82 Limitations – 87 Barriers – 155 Do Not Disturb – 159 Make a Mistake – 280 Filters – 314 Almost

I do this by:

Finishing your sentences for you (but my way!)

Deliberately mis-understanding you on certain issues.

Mis hearing your words.

Acting confused about obvious things.

When you see others do this, realize they are simply not as flex-able as you.

Saay, you aren’t doing this yourself, are you?

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These are related:

# 30 Ever-changing Relationships – 32 Red Light, Green Light – 35 One + One = Two!

36 Prime Time – 37 Or Its Equivalent – 43 Desire – 46 Always – 74 Dictating Your Miracle

86 Don’t be Yourself! – 96 Habits – 116 Facade – 231 Statement – 291 Reverse – 293 Life

296 The 3rd Option