We usually ‘punish’ ourselves to relieve the burden of this guilt.

Once punished we no longer feel that initial guilt.

OK, so?

You no longer feel guilty for the initial action.

Now look at your next action, the one that de-guilted you.

It by itself is now what you are looking at.

You no longer include the original cause /guilt because it’s been solved, remember?

Again OK, so?

You overheat water which spills.

A ‘good’ housewife does not do this (Guilt)

So you pull the pan off the stove … and burn your fingers, of course (Punishment)

Now that guilt is gone /punished, you are left with burnt fingers.

A ‘good’ housewife does not burn her fingers. (Guilt!)

So you rush to the fridge to put some butter on your fingers.

And, knock the milk over. Of course. (Punishment)

So that guilt, burnt finger tips, is gone.

Which now leaves you with spilled milk.

A ‘good’ housewife does not spill… etc.

To solve this cycle, just

S T O P

It’s the only way to cut the cycle.

Burnt toast, baby crying, phone rings etc. ?

S T O P

Cut the cycle.

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You only wish that reading one Doodle once would do it!

It’s the subconscious cross-indexing of selected different Doodles that

‘side-steps’ your filters to give you what you want.

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To reinforce this, read at least 2 below: If you Read only one

# 7 Disaster – 27 Responses – 53 Guilt – 75 Same – 99 Perfection!

146 Always Right – 369 Sunset

Is killing never good / always bad?

The real life answer is … Sometimes.

Killing is never good:

A terrorist in a crowd, wired with a bomb that can kill many, many people.

He must be killed to prevent that from happening.

Do you save an unwed mother or her baby… or let them both die?

Tell-the-truth is always good:

Am I fat? Am I ugly? Are we almost there? Will it Hurt? etc.

Ok, so?

You can dramatically speed up your personal growth /progress by actively converting Always – Never into Sometimes.

Start with one – just one – situation and make Never become Almost Never (aka Sometimes)

or make Always become Almost Always (aka: Sometimes)

This really sets a tone in your mind that now allows consideration where before this no consideration was even thought relevant.

In this ever rapidly changing world previous Always and Never may simply not apply.

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You only wish that reading one Doodle once would do it!

It’s the subconscious cross-indexing of selected different Doodles that

‘side-steps’ your filters to give you what you want.

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To reinforce this, read at least 2 below: If you Read only one

# 14 Eliminating Triggers – 21 Interpretation – 90 Good/Bad – 109 Understanding – 118 Right!

146 Always Right – 159 Make a Mistake – 182 Grey – 280 Filters – 296 The 3rd Option

313 Fact vs Opinion – 330 Barriers vs Filters – 355 Discarded Solutions – 369 Sunset

1. I’m afraid that if I had money, I’d _________________  (Play the Game…)

2. Money causes  ________________________________ ( & get the results.)

3. I think money _________________________________  (Why not … too hard?)

4. If I weren’t so cheap, I’d  ________________________  (Just do it!)

5. Being broke tells me  ____________________________

Those who spend their own money on themselves are careful about

how much they spend and what it buys.

.

Those who spend someone else’s money on themselves don’t care

what they spend but are attentive to what it buys.

.

Those who spend their own money on someone else are careful

how much they spend but careless about what it buys.

.

Those who spend someone else’s money on someone else aren’t careful

about how much or what it buys.

.

The last case is called GOVERNMENT

.

Milton Friedman, Nobel Prize Economic Sciences

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To reinforce this, read any 2 below:

# 10 Progress It! – 12 Change – 21 Interpretation – 28 Getting What I Want!

37 Or Its Equivalent – 41 Elephants – 46 Always – 50 Limits – 87 Barriers

117 Gold Mine – 190 Big Deal? – 210 Second Thing – 217 Luxury /Waste – 223 One Hour

225 Money – 232 Justify – 251 A Rough Diamond – 285 Questions – 325 More Questions

I point out my flaws before you do, so I am ‘safe’.

I deride myself first, just in case you might.

Listing my Boo Boos is survival for me.

Do you like people who always do this?

Isn’t it somewhat of a burden to have to constantly reassure someone who always seems uncertain even in something they have been doing all their life.

Saaay, you don’t do this, right?

These are Related:

# 26 Discounting Self – 47 Gold Stamps – 53 Guilt – 71 Nice – 96 Habits

125 A Clumsy Self Image – 146 Always Right

So do you.

In fact, I bet everyone lies

in every country.

“Am I fat?”

“Am I ugly?”

“Are we almost there?”

“Will it hurt?”

These are easy answers, …when you lie.

What about ‘fat & ugly’ in a business sense.

Now you have to compare telling the truth with … embarrassment.

My only guideline is to never lie for personal gain.

Then I feel fine.

These are Related:

# 20 The ‘Gift’ of Knowledge – 27 Responses – 62 Context – 78 Process – 109 Understanding

201 One by One – 216 Lies – 242 Gentleman – 273 Propaganda – 292 Denying

This is the source of guilt!
You have an abstract-ideal in-your-head for everything. Absolutely everything.
Think of an ideal /favorite meal. (play the game!)
Would you be alone?   … With others? (play the game!)
Would there be music?   … Flowers?   … What color? (play the game!)
Candles?  Shape?  Color? (play the game!)
See, you even have it down to the color /shape of the flowers /candles in your abstract meal!
Absolutely everything has an ideal-abstract in-your-head.

And the amount you deviate from that abstract = the amount of Guilt you feel.

My father did all his work and, on Fridays, would go to a movie.
His friend (at the next desk) would not. He said he felt guilty.
He thought he was getting paid for being at the office for 48 hours (in those days!) a week.
My father thought he was getting paid for doing the job whatever time it took.
Sooo when each compared taking a couple of hours off to their abstract-ideal-composite, one felt guilty and the other did not.

Review your composite-abstract-ideal. A fresh perspective could lessen or eliminate the guilt. (Don’t accept the ‘abstract’ that Guilt is ‘good’, now you know where it comes from!)

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These are related:

23 Become More Creative – 31 Being at-Cause – 48 Saying No – 55 Oxygen – 59 Hesitation

71 Nice – 86 Don’t Be Yourself! – 96 Habits – 99 Perfection!

In your head you are a bunch of different ages.

When it comes to the subject of CRYSTALLOGRAPHY I bet you are, at most, 12 years old.
You have no more information a 12 year old has on that subject.
If you consider your hobby, you’re much older than your physical age.
How long would it take to get that amount of information in normal, everyday living?
How ‘old’ would one likely have to be?

So put these two statements together and ask yourself:
Just how do I treat a young child (myself!) who’s learning?
Because in anything new, unusual or different, I am as if I were a child.

Stop acting impatient, sneering, deriding, complaining and so on, with yourself!
You are, after all, exactly as a child, learning!

And, how do you treat a young child who’s learning?

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You only wish reading one Doodle would do it!
It’s a subconscious cross-index of select different Doodles
to ‘side-step’ your filters, that gets you what you want.
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To reinforce this, read at least 2 below: If you Read only one

3 Cumulative Knowledge –  4 Common Courtesy –  11 Feedback

35 One + One = Two! –  36 Prime Time –  59 Hesitation

66 Opposites –  78 Process –  85 Babies –  90 Good/Bad

98 Third Time –   99 Perfection! –  100 Ransom Notes

People are mostly the same. A good restaurant is a good restaurant to almost everyone. So is a good book, or movie.

Quite often we allow unstated barriers to prevent us from asking for the very thing the other person also would be pleased to have happen.

Suddenly they stared at each other and one blurted out, “Let’s get out of here! This is a lousy movie!”
As simply as that they did something they both wanted, but normally wouldn’t do.

Keep It Super Simple really works well.

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You only wish reading one Doodle would do it!
It’s a subconscious cross-index of select different Doodles
to ‘side-step’ your filters, that gets you what you want.
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To reinforce this, read at least 2 below: If you Read only one

11 Feedback – 22 Attitude – 32 Red Light, Green Light – 58 Needs – 59 Hesitation

60 Patterns – 89 Initiating – 95 Ring/Knock – 99 Perfection! – 103 Ring/Knock Part 2

Color is food

Smiles are food

Are you nourishing yourself, these days?

It is all too easy to put off taking time to ‘feed’ yourself.

Listen to music, go for a long walk, read a good book.

Get more sun, especially in winter.

If not now, when?

I wasn’t doing it, so I actually scheduled it as if it were an appointment.

Then it worked!

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You only wish reading one Doodle would do it!

It’s a subconscious cross-index of select different Doodles

to ‘side-step’ your filters, that gets you what you want. ————————————————————————-

To reinforce this, read at least 2: If you Read only one

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23 Become More Creative – 24 The Wedge – 32 Red light, Green Light

39 Increasing Intuition – 47 Gold Stamps – 59 Hesitation

76 Increasing Awareness – 91 Dieting – 94 Increasing Vitality