We usually ‘punish’ ourselves to relieve the burden of this guilt.

Once punished we no longer feel that initial guilt.

OK, so?

You no longer feel guilty for the initial action.

Now look at your next action, the one that de-guilted you.

It by itself is now what you are looking at.

You no longer include the original cause /guilt because it’s been solved, remember?

Again OK, so?

You overheat water which spills.

A ‘good’ housewife does not do this (Guilt)

So you pull the pan off the stove … and burn your fingers, of course (Punishment)

Now that guilt is gone /punished, you are left with burnt fingers.

A ‘good’ housewife does not burn her fingers. (Guilt!)

So you rush to the fridge to put some butter on your fingers.

And, knock the milk over. Of course. (Punishment)

So that guilt, burnt finger tips, is gone.

Which now leaves you with spilled milk.

A ‘good’ housewife does not spill… etc.

To solve this cycle, just

S T O P

It’s the only way to cut the cycle.

Burnt toast, baby crying, phone rings etc. ?

S T O P

Cut the cycle.

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You only wish that reading one Doodle once would do it!

It’s the subconscious cross-indexing of selected different Doodles that

‘side-steps’ your filters to give you what you want.

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To reinforce this, read at least 2 below: If you Read only one

# 7 Disaster – 27 Responses – 53 Guilt – 75 Same – 99 Perfection!

146 Always Right – 369 Sunset

So, why did you do it?

Because you did not know you would regret it.

Because you did not have the experience.

So you could not know you would then regret it.

Which means you learned something.

How does one learn anything?

By doing.

Then, the odd time you look back and Regret, say “Look what I have learned here.

I did not know this. Now I do.”

‘I learned’ rather than ‘I regret.’

Because, truly there are no regrets.

Or errors, or mistakes, or…

Again, if you actually knew, you would not have done that.

So they are all learnings.

No Regrets.

To reinforce this, read at least 2 below: 

# 20 The ‘Gift’ of Knowledge – 21 Interpretation – 25 How Old Are You? – 35 One + One = Two!

40 So What! – 83 Being Wrong – 98 Third Time – 113 Success – 118 Right! – 152 Just Do It

196 Past, Present & Future – 199 Everything – 345 Life is…

The first time it’s repeated = 90% accurate

Then 80% accurate (at best!)

Then 70% and now it starts to get dangerous as to just how accurate.

Then 60% and that’s about it.

At 50% there is a 50/50 chance the message is … not accurate!

OK, so?

Well, you hear things that influence your very life /lifestyle.

How far removed are these from their source(s)?

Not from the speaker you hear, but the actual source.

The “Red Menace” in the 1960’s, 70’s & 80’s (!), WMD in the 2000’s, etc. came from the speakers you heard and not the original research source(s).

They heard /read it as a summary of someone else’s compilation of many others’ research.

Are we at 50% yet?

Whenever you are concerned about something, look to see just how far from the source it is.

Takes time, but sure is better than being continuously affected /concerned.

These are Related:

# 33 Solving a 5 – 109 Understanding – 162 Consider the Source – 211 Real Decisions – 233 Input

254 Manipulation

If I don’t participate, I can’t lose … (or win!)

If I don’t ask, no one can say no …

(or yes… The 1st Harry Potter book was rejected over 12 times!)

Is that what you want?

To never win, never lose, never learn?

Unlike school, in Life you take the test then learn the lesson.

Falling is not the error,

not getting up, is.

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These are related:

# 12 Change – 14 Eliminating Triggers – 15 K.I.S.S. – 18 Being Triggered – 19 Expectations

21 Interpretation – 22 Attitude – 25 How Old Are You? – 26 Discounting Self

35 One + One = Two! – 40 So What! – 46 Always – 47 Gold Stamps – 59 Hesitation – 85 Babies

87 Barriers – 96 Habits – 122 Real! – 146 Always Right

great Blockbuster (A video store chain) was. Then she worked there one summer. And was amazed at all the mistakes they made, things they got wrong, missed efficiencies etc. Then she went back to school. Soon she was telling people how great Blockbuster was. A couple resigned from a company claiming their Computer Software was below par. And joined a company with “Much improved” software. Little did they know that both my company and their new company share the same supplier. Remember your point of view is not necessarily the one others see. That’s exactly how companies get it wrong. By ignoring the customer’s Point of View. Also how they get it right. By ignoring the internal grumbles that are always there. Check carefully which Point of View is driving you. ————————– These are related: # 33 Solving a 5 – 83 Being Wrong – 122 Real! – 182 Grey – 266 Results

He would type my letters (1970’s!).

And he’d make a mistake on almost every one.

“Danny, do you check these letters for errors?”

Well, I can always correct them.

“That’s not the point. Correct them before you give them to me.”

OK, why say this?

Many people un-consciously believe that to correct an error after you point it out, shows how valuable they are. How much they are doing to help you.

My modern Danny sends me passwords or site URLs that simply do not work.

Each time with a different reason as to why not, and an immediate correction.

Why not check before giving it to me?

Because then it would be perfect and I would not notice just how valuable that person was.

A supposed clever ploy

is really

Too annoying to do repeat business with.

Check your work before handing it to someone.

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These are related:

# 46 Always – 60 Patterns – 81 Second Impressions – 89 Initiating – 232 Justify

I call one person and ask her how she is doing.

“Excellent. I’m working very hard. I couldn’t fit in another thing.

And I can’t think of anyway I could become more effective or efficient.”

Because she thinks that’s the best way to be promoted.

I reply “Oh, that’s too bad, because I need someone to run the business but I guess you are too busy.

And even if you can somehow make some time, you can do nothing to improve the place.”

Are you or have you made yourself irreplaceable?

Too bad, no promotion for you because they can’t do without you where you are.

Maybe less perfect and less busy would give you what you want.

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To reinforce this read any two below:

# 44 After – 86 Don’t be Yourself! – 92 Strength – 159 Make a Mistake – 199 Everything

Because we can spot our errors /mistakes and correct them before they ‘kill’ us.

Because when I make a mistake it’s not all-of-me making that mistake.

Only part-of-me.

The parts that walk, talk, remember birthdays etc. are NOT making that mistake.

If I think all-of-me is making the mistake then I proceed to defend myself.

My total self.

When, in actuality, only a so very small part-of-me is making that particular mistake at that time.

And the moments before and the moments after that mistake, are not a mistake,

so I am also only making that mistake for a brief part-of-time.

When you think: all-of-me is making a mistake seemingly all-the-time…

Remind yourself: It’s only a small part-of-me in a brief part-of-time.

It’s true, and much easier to handle.

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To reinforce this read any two below:

#  3 Cumulative Knowledge – 21 Interpretation – 68 Concentration – 79 Truth Time

98 Third Time – 117 Gold Mine – 125 A Clumsy Self Image – 157 Self Assembly

Those are the two things that can happen when something unwanted occurs.

It’s not my fault because…

means I can do nothing to change this from happening again.

I think this is where it went wrong…

means I’ll remember that, next time.

It seems less bad for me when I blame someone/something else.

That way I justify myself.

And almost convince myself that I am right.

But still don’t get it done.

Those who truly understand are impressed when you explore and

explain what went wrong, even if it was you who somehow caused it.

Now they are sure you will not repeat that again.

So to become more effective, stop justifying

and learn.

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To reinforce this read any two below:

# 4 Common Courtesy – 11 Feedback – 21 Interpretation – 83 Being Wrong

98 Third Time – 102 Response-ability – 127 Not-Me – 146 Always Right

159 Make a Mistake