He knew precisely how much he needed, when and for exactly how long.
I felt bad for him, not because he didn’t have the money but because he knew his situation exactly.
There were no unthought-of places where he misplaced some money. No loans he could get. Nothing. He was an expert at handling money. Which made it very hard when he ran out.
OK, so?
Well, I am sort of sloppy with money so there is always some-where, some-how that I can find the money I need.
Same with apologizing, thanking, brainstorming, etc.
I am sloppy, so that means I can always add some additional effort and, since it would improve whatever I needed to add to, it almost always works /solves things.
What things are you sloppy with?
Relax, those are the very things that you can, when needed, simply pay a little bit more attention to and improve /solve.
The only time you have a problem is like my friend, Steve, when you have exhausted every single thing and it still needs ‘more’. That is a problem.
Not when you’re sloppy.
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You only wish reading one Doodle would do it!
It’s a subconscious cross-index of select different Doodles
to side-step your filters, that gets you what you want.
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To reinforce this, read at least 2: If you Read only one: 99 Perfection!
# 7 Disaster – 61 Styles – 86 Don’t be Yourself! – 125 A Clumsy Self Image
146 Always Right – 236 Part-of-Me – 256 99 is Fine – 314 Almost – 336 Lost & Found
]]>Yesterday disappears.
If he/she finally says yes,
Yesterday disappears.
These are exterior promises of future events,
which you use, to forget /neutralize yesterday.
OK, so?
This. Leaves. You. Powerless.
The Present is the end of Yesterday,
and the beginning of Tomorrow.
To the degree you take responsibility for…
everything (!)
so do you also take control of your future.
The more things you are response-able for,
the more power you have to change those very things.
And see them disappear.
Remember, Life has no remote, you have to actually do it.
The Doodles below are specifically chosen to help do this!
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You only wish reading one Doodle would do it!
It’s a subconscious cross-index of select different Doodles
to side-step’ your filters, that gets you what you want.
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To reinforce this, read at least 2: If you Read only one: 102 Response-ability
# 31 Being at-Cause – 46 Always – 57 Helicopter – 98 Third Time – 118 Right!
122 Real! – 123 Ignorance – 127 Not-Me – 146 Always Right – 246 Environment
]]>Some Zones extend to events with asteroids.
Some Zones ‘only’ to immediate family.
Zone Sizes vary.
OK, so?
Well, consider your Zone of Worry. How far does it extend?
Someone’s child is out too late, … halfway around the world.
Does your Worry Zone Size extend to there?
Now consider your Zone of Influence.
Your Zone of Worry size differs from your Zone of Influence size.
Again, OK, so?
You may be worrying about something you have absolutely no Influence over.
Next time you start to worry about something, anything (!)
first ask yourself if it’s inside your Zone of
Influence.
If it is, DO something about it.
If not, why worry.
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You only wish reading one Doodle would do it!
It’s a subconscious cross-index of select different Doodles
to ‘side-step’ your filters, that gets you what you want.
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To reinforce this, read at least 2: If you Read only one: 33 Solving a 5
# 8 Problem Solving – 9 Worry – 104 Power – 194 F.E.A.R. – 199 Everything
237 Let Go! – 245 Go Fishing – 314 Almost – 341 Possible vs Probable
]]>that that is the way it is. So what. Well, if you are Ok with your life, so nothing. If you are not OK, now you know YOU cause it. Easy to change your responses …which changes everything. Remember: Life has no Remote You must change it yourself. ————————————————— To reinforce this, read any 2 below: # 11 Feedback – 27 Responses – 42 Leadership – 46 Always – 54 Self – 71 Nice 145 NO Feedback – 175 Self Worth – 179 Mirror
]]>So You Become is the rest.
How many times have you heard this in your life?
Ok, so?
Well, I got it wrong.
I used to think “If that’s so, when I was a teenager how come I didn’t Become a girl?”
I sure was thinking about them enough!
Yet, when I did think of ‘girls’ my physical automatically acted exactly as I was thinking.
And many times… very obviously so!
You can also worry yourself into a physical ‘state’:
Nervous, can’t sleep, etc.
These are very physical effects that are a DIRECT result of thought.
Direct.
YOUR thoughts.
The cumulative is what you now ‘enjoy’ …and this will continue to physically happen.
Good or bad.
You can’t change the guaranteed physical result, but you can:
* Stop thinking like that. Good Luck!
* Do something else for a more positive effect on your body:
Read a book
Watch a movie
Talk to someone
etc.
Go for a walk… will not work because you could still think about, whatever.
It’s your body. Think about it!
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To reinforce this, read any 2 below:
# 11 Feedback – 38 Carrier Wave – 87 Barriers – 94 Increasing Vitality – 166 Inside Out
176 “1-2-3” – 328 Double Placebo – 329 Seriously – 335 Stress – 340 Pushups & Sit-ups
]]>Because I remind you nothing happens unless you make it happen.
Even Instant coffee – with 99% of the Process pre done – still has to be drunk by you.
Health drinks, too.
The doctor puts the cast on your arm but YOU do the healing.
YOU must make that crucial decision to actually, personally, individually, do it yourself.
No one else.
You.
Ok, so?
These Mental Doodles help best in this:
#5 Decision Everything you do is as a result of Decision. If you don’t decide, someone else will. more
10 Progress It I once hired a person with a good reputation as a really effective ‘trainer’. She basically had one message: more
12 Change People resist change because they’re not all that sure that they’ll like what they change to. more
21 Interpretation My best friend and I started many crazy businesses when we were teenagers. more
24 The Wedge A wedge has two ‘sides’. One’s thin, the other, thick. Which side you use determines your results more
67 Personal Nag Nobody likes a nag. (A person who keeps ‘bothering /reminding’ you over & over again.) more
106 Plan B You never succeed at Plan A. more
113 Success You were born weak, small and completely defenseless. more
137 Easier Solutions This process has worked for me for over 40 years. more
189 Twin Consultants are effective. more
208 Perfect Instructions The Perfect Instructions are your emotions. more
209 One Second or One Year It makes no difference. more
251 A Rough Diamond What does a rough diamond look like? more
259 Don’t Stop You don’t know where to go or what to do next. more
This is an ugly one because … if you don’t bother to click on even one of them…
]]>It helps smooth the way, Grease the wheels, Oil the machinery, etc.
Ok so?
Well, there are many, many other ways to do this.
A smile,
A joke,
A rest break,
A change of subject, etc.
All of these help smooth the way.
If you have trouble getting things done easily
maybe you need to ‘bribe’ those around you…
with a smile, a break, a joke, etc.
Too easy?
Note: Last week in Dalian, China, I put my shoe and my watch on the table while negotiating.
I made my point and reduced the tension at the same time.
True, that takes some practice, but it does show the idea above is valid.
(And inspired this Mental Doodle.)
These are Related:
# 7 Disaster – 27 Responses – 160 Combination – 235 Ball Bearings – 289 Don’t /Can’t
]]>Mental Pushups & Sit-ups prepare you for Situations.
Mental = Solving problem’s as if they were yours.
A friend and I would always try to ‘improve’ the restaurant while we waited in line.
(Hmmm, maybe if they cleared the tables faster, or presented the bill faster, etc.)
Carefully write an email / Facebook comment / report as if it were very important.
And so on.
Your physical Body Language actually changes and you look /broadcast more & more confidence.
This is very attractive when you meet new people, are interviewed or evaluated for a promotion, etc.
Some people do Mental Pushups & Sit-ups automatically.
Others need to start this.
You?
Try it!
These are Related:
# 3 Cumulative Knowledge – 6 Feed Yourself – 25 How Old Are You? – 130 Collecting Solutions
195 Four Stages – 231 Statement – 282 If It Is To Be…
]]>I realize this and have stopped trying to do useless things regarding this situation.
I play games instead.
Sudoku, in fact.
Ok, so?
Well, Sudoku is a fairly predictable and controllable game.
It is divided into Easy, Medium, Hard, etc.
And I time myself on how long I take for each.
Since I got it at Christmas I’ve played for almost a month now.
Yet my times during this stress period are about 20% worse /slower than at other times.
Sudoku is not a very hard game.
20% slower is lots!
Next time you are under stress realize just how much you are being affected and don’t add that worse score to your already stressed situation.
Lighten up on yourself just when things are at their worse.
And, yes it is easily done when you consider the things you do are at least 20% off from what you normally do.
These are Related:
# 33 Solving a Five – 68 Concentration – 137 Easier Solutions – 149 The End – 253 Just-in-Case
]]>So do you.
In fact, I bet everyone lies
in every country.
“Am I fat?”
“Am I ugly?”
“Are we almost there?”
“Will it hurt?”
These are easy answers, …when you lie.
What about ‘fat & ugly’ in a business sense.
Now you have to compare telling the truth with … embarrassment.
My only guideline is to never lie for personal gain.
Then I feel fine.
These are Related:
# 20 The ‘Gift’ of Knowledge – 27 Responses – 62 Context – 78 Process – 109 Understanding
201 One by One – 216 Lies – 242 Gentleman – 273 Propaganda – 292 Denying
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