When you shake someone’s hand, just who is shaking whose hand? And the simple answer is: you both are. Yet the person who initiates has the advantage. If someone asks you to ‘tell the truth’ and then you do, that’s not the same as if you initiate by telling the truth before they ask. The same goes for everything else. If I see you take action about something I have not yet asked you to do, I’m far more impressed than if you take action after I ask. In everyday things, which do you initiate and which do you follow someone else’s lead. This is an obvious (yet subtle!) way to show leadership. ————————– These are related: 11 Feedback – 13 Changing Change – 22 Attitude – 24 The Wedge – 31 Being at-Cause – 42 Leadership 43 Desire – 44 After – 59 Hesitation – 63 Free Will – 81 Second Impressions – 82 Limitations 85 Babies – 88 Will Power – 95 Ring/Knock
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88 Will Power
We all have will power.
What we need is will power to exercise our will power.
That we don’t always have.
I can diet. I have dieted. What I don’t have is the will power to start another one.
However once started I’m OK for a while, because I do have will power.
So what I really need is to sneak up on myself and set into motion whatever it takes to make sure I get to the point where I can exercise the will power I do have.
And that happens one fine day when I’m full of good intentions towards myself.
A good start, yet why do I so easily fail /quit. Again.
THAT’s where you deliberately appoint /install a personal short-term NAG.
A person who’d enjoy reminding you to do what you said you would.
That’s your ongoing will power to prompt the will power you do have.
Also a lot of 3 x 5 cards with an END date. ALL over the place!
You are more likely to do it if you have a NAG and can see an END date.
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These are related:
6 Feed Yourself – 11 Feedback – 16 Follow Up – 24 The Wedge – 48 Saying No
67 Personal Nag – 85 Babies – 91 Dieting – 103 Ring/Knock (Part 2)
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87 Barriers
A brick wall stops a car but not a butterfly.
But a gauze net will.
Bulletproof glass will stop a bullet
But not the light from a match.
Different things stop different things.
So what stops thought?
Thinking.
Aw, it’s just a thought in my head.
Yes, but that’s all that’s needed to stop other thoughts in your head.
Thinking “I can’t” is a brick wall to “I can.”
And no information as to how you ‘could’ will come to mind.
It can’t.
You put a barrier against that by thinking “I can’t”, remember?
The next time you think “I can’t”, remember who’s doing the thinking
and therefore who’s truly stopping you.
And how easily you can change!
Bring some things to mind that could make it “I can” and
see how quickly your mind also complies to that!
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These are related:
4 Common Courtesy – 22 Attitude – 27 Responses – 28 Getting What I Want! – 29 Who’s in Charge?
31 Being at-Cause – 32 Red Light, Green Light – 34 Thinking Positively Negative
37 Or Its Equivalent – 38 Carrier Wave – 44 After – 50 Limits – 51 Hindsight – 52 Correct Decisions
54 Self – 57 Helicopter – 59 Hesitation – 62 Context – 74 Dictating Your Miracle – 82 Limitations
83 Being Wrong – 86 Don’t be Yourself! – 99 Perfection! – 102 Response-ability – 103 Ring/Knock Part 2
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85 Babies
What good’s a baby?
It doesn’t talk.
It doesn’t walk.
It can’t even feed itself.
Well, of course, it’s the potential.
The potential to be another great person /artist /writer /humanitarian.
And it’s the potential we all know is there that keeps us nurturing a baby until it starts to do things for itself.
So how about you and your potential?
There’s no ‘time limit’ to potential. It’s still there waiting for a proper environment to flourish in.
DO you feel happy and excited at your potential?
DO you allow /encourage it to grow?
DO you devote endless hours to your potential like you would /do to a baby?
Why not!
Decide firmly to allow yourself the time, energy and patience you automatically give to a baby. And reach even more of your potential.
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These are related:
4 Common Courtesy – 6 Feed Yourself – 12 Change – 20 The ‘Gift’ of Knowledge – 22 Attitude
24 The Wedge – 25 How Old Are You? – 26 Discounting Self – 31 Being at-Cause
35 One + One = Two! – 36 Prime Time – 47 Gold Stamps – 50 Limits – 55 Oxygen – 59 Hesitation
64 Natural Talents – 78 Process – 87 Barriers – 90 Good/Bad – 94 Increasing Vitality – 96 Habits
100 Ransom Notes – 102 Response-ability
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78 Process
To make Jello (Jelly) you start with some powder which is too dry compared to Jello.
Then you take water, which is too, well, ‘watery’.
You then heat the water, and we all know that Jello is not hot.
And then contradict your own actions by cooling the very same water you just heated!
We all understand what we’re going through is a Process.
Well, what if life is also a Process.
What if you find yourself doing things opposite of what you swore you’d ever do in the future.
What if that’s the very best way to progress!
Rather than see your actions as literally good/bad – right/wrong when compared to your desired end result, give yourself some leeway and remember that life is a Process.
So allow yourself to date again, settle down, go on that trip, try for that job, have another kid…
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These are related:
1 Ferris Wheel – 3 Cumulative Knowledge – 12 Change – 35 One + One = Two! – 43 Desire – 44 After
52 Correct Decisions – 63 Free Will – 70 Conclusions – 72 Technique – 73 Killing Frogs
74 Dictating Your Miracle – 84 The Communication Process – 98 Third Time