All too often I forget people have their own ideas, their own life, their own … everything.<\/p>\n

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That’s when Me Messages come into play,<\/p>\n

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If you don’t like what people say to you then rather than attack or keep silent, try a Me Message:<\/p>\n

“I feel bad \/hurt about what you are saying to me now.”<\/p>\n

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And then no matter how they reply, just repeat.<\/p>\n

“That may be so, but I just want you to know I feel hurt about what you are saying to me now.”<\/p>\n

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NOT “I don’t appreciate, I dislike, etc.”<\/p>\n

More like “I hurt because of this.”<\/p>\n

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There is no defense when no one attacks.<\/p>\n

And if you send a Me Message you are NOT attacking.<\/p>\n

You are not even defending — which is a form of attack.<\/p>\n

You simply state your feelings of hurt. Period.<\/p>\n

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Again, Too simple?<\/p>\n

Really?<\/p>\n

Without even trying it?<\/p>\n

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These are\u00a0Related<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

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#\u00a07<\/strong>\u00a0Disaster<\/a> – 13<\/strong> Changing Change<\/a> – 27<\/strong> Responses<\/a> – 105<\/strong> Silent Additions<\/a><\/p>\n

162<\/strong>\u00a0Consider the Source<\/a> –\u00a0267<\/strong>\u00a0Strangers & Ships<\/a> –\u00a0320<\/strong>\u00a0Description vs Judgment<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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