No good trainer \u2018trains\u2019 using a stick. Not one. <\/p>\n After your next mistake, check how many times you make this particular mistake. <\/p>\n ————————–<\/p>\n These are related:<\/strong><\/p>\n # 11<\/strong> <\/strong>Feedback<\/a> – <\/strong>26<\/strong> <\/strong>Discounting Self<\/a> – <\/strong>40<\/strong> <\/strong>So What!<\/a> – <\/strong>46<\/strong> <\/strong>Always<\/a> – 47<\/strong> <\/strong>Gold Stamps<\/a> – <\/strong>62<\/strong> <\/strong>Contex<\/span>t<\/a><\/p>\n <\/strong>90<\/strong> <\/strong>Good\/Bad<\/a> – <\/strong>96<\/strong> <\/strong>Habits<\/a> – 99<\/strong> <\/strong>Perfection!<\/a> – <\/strong>100<\/strong> <\/strong>Ransom Notes<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" No good trainer \u2018trains\u2019 using a stick. Not one. Behavior that\u2019s rewarded is repeated. So how do you train yourself? Do you chastise yourself when you do something undesirable? Why? Do you think that by being hard on yourself you\u2019ll learn faster? If that\u2019s true then why don\u2019t all the best trainers use a stick? […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[30,36,38,39],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-332","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-leadership","7":"category-mistakes","8":"category-personal-growth","9":"category-power","10":"entry"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/332","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=332"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/332\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=332"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=332"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=332"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nBehavior that\u2019s rewarded<\/strong> is repeated.
\nSo how do you train yourself?
\nDo you chastise yourself when you do something undesirable?
\nWhy?
\nDo you think that by being hard on yourself you\u2019ll learn faster?
\nIf that\u2019s true then why don\u2019t all the best trainers use a stick?<\/p>\n
\nIf it\u2019s just this once, let it go.
\nIf many times, check if you chastise yourself with a \u2018stick\u2019.
\nDoesn\u2019t work, does it!
\nSo try giving yourself a reward<\/strong>. Silly as it sounds.
\nConsciously give yourself a reward fully knowing you are going against instinct. And setting a precedent.
\nTo reward yourself after making this mistake is to show yourself that you don\u2019t have to punish yourself to change.
\nYou’ve tried everything else, why not give this a chance.<\/p>\n