See how quickly your eyes skipped over the blank space between the title and this line.<\/p>\n
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There you just did it again!<\/p>\n
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We are so used to looking for ‘something’ etc. that when we don’t get it we look elsewhere.
\nWe also ‘need’ feedback so much it drives us to modify our actions.<\/p>\n
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So, like skipping the blank lines (and forgetting<\/strong> you’re doing that!)<\/em> <\/p>\n I was really mad at a person about placing orders for some crucial production. <\/p>\n NO Feedback. No reinforcement. <\/p>\n give NO feedback. And it will<\/em> stop.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Don’t turn away, that’s feedback. <\/p>\n Just become blank.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Absolutely<\/strong> blank. <\/p>\n See? <\/p>\n ————————–<\/p>\n These are related:<\/strong><\/p>\n # 7 <\/strong>Disaster<\/a> – 11<\/strong> Feedback<\/a> – 27<\/strong> Responses<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" See how quickly your eyes skipped over the blank space between the title and this line. There you just did it again! We are so used to looking for ‘something’ etc. that when we don’t get it we look elsewhere. We also ‘need’ feedback so much it drives us to modify our actions. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[7,14,23,36,39,40,42],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-402","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-communications","7":"category-disaster","8":"category-habits","9":"category-mistakes","10":"category-power","11":"category-problem-solving","12":"category-response-ability","13":"entry"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/402","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=402"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/402\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=402"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=402"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=402"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nyou are unconsciously<\/strong> manipulated by NO Feedback.<\/p>\n
\nWhile I was speaking in a very angry tone that person literally did not move at all. Not a twitch.
\nNothing.
\nSooo, what could I do? They were not resisting. Nor were they denying. Nor excusing themselves.
\nThey were just giving<\/p>\n
\n(Like automatically<\/strong> skipping blank lines.)<\/em><\/p>\n
\n<\/em>
\nSo whenever you are in a situation you don’t want to continue, just<\/p>\n
\nDon’t ignore, that’s feedback.<\/p>\n
\nAnd whatever is going on will stop much faster & without the other person being aware of it.
\nThe harder it is to be blank, the more effective it obviously is, otherwise why would it be hard to do.<\/p>\n
\n(Skipped again?)<\/em><\/p>\n