A friend of mine was overly attentive with people.<\/p>\n
One day he fainted in front of a group visiting him.<\/p>\n
He ended up in the hospital, severely dehydrated.<\/p>\n
The next two days he had a lot of visitors. And could not move or leave the bed.<\/p>\n
He could not \u2018accommodate\u2019 them nor anticipate their needs.<\/p>\n
Yet every one of them showed a genuine concern for him.<\/p>\n
Unmistakably genuine.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
He realized people like him because they, well, \u2026 like\u00a0him<\/strong>.<\/p>\n And NOT because he\u2019s attentive, or anticipates their needs or whatever else he \u2018always\u2019 does when with others.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n What a realization of the trap he was in, regarding others!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Are you doing things because you believe it\u2019s \u2018expected\u2019 of you or because people would not like you just for who you are and really do not want to be with you\u00a0unless<\/em> you do these things?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Might as well find out now.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Stop \u2018accommodating\u2019 \u2026 then, when people are with you, you\u2019ll know for sure they are with\u00a0you<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n ————————–<\/p>\n These are related:<\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n # 26 <\/strong>Discounting Self<\/a> <\/strong>– 42 <\/strong>Leadership<\/a> <\/strong>– 48 <\/strong>Saying No<\/a> <\/strong>– 55 <\/strong>Oxygen<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n 81 <\/strong>Second Impressions<\/a> <\/strong>– 86 <\/strong>Don’t be Yourself!<\/a> <\/strong>– 96 <\/strong>Habits<\/a> <\/strong>– 101 <\/strong>Relationships<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n 110 <\/strong>Nothing<\/a> <\/strong>– 116 <\/strong>Facade<\/a> <\/strong>– 155 <\/strong>Do Not Disturb<\/a> <\/strong>– 159 <\/strong>Make a Mistake<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" A friend of mine was overly attentive with people. One day he fainted in front of a group visiting him. He ended up in the hospital, severely dehydrated. The next two days he had a lot of visitors. And could not move or leave the bed. He could not \u2018accommodate\u2019 them nor anticipate their needs. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[16,41,43],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-513","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-facade","7":"category-relationships","8":"category-self-image","9":"entry"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/513","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=513"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/513\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=513"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=513"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=513"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}