The villagers took a round about way to their place of worship because of the snake.
\nFinally the headman went to the Holy man and explained the problem.
\nThe Holy man said “OK walk back straight down the hill, right beside the snake.”
\nOnce they saw the snake was harmless everyone walked straight up.
\nSoon the snake went to the Holy man and said “I’m being harassed by the children who pull me by the tail. I want to change my agreement.”
\nThe Holy man replied, “Foolish snake, I told you not to bite but I never told you not to hiss.”<\/p>\n
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Often we are sooo\u00a0accommodating we are taken advantage of.
\nSometimes they expect more from us than others.
\nAnd ask for more than they normally would.
\nOnly you know what form this takes in your case.<\/p>\n
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A firm no, politely said, with a ‘politeness’ excuse \/reason as to why you’re saying no, will serve to show your new self. Contrary to your worse fears of total rejection because of this, you will be surprised at the result. <\/p>\n What a small price to pay!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n ————————–<\/p>\n These are related:<\/strong><\/p>\n 4<\/strong> Common Courtesy<\/a> – 11<\/strong> Feedback<\/a> – 18<\/strong> Being Triggered<\/a> – 22<\/strong> Attitude<\/a> – 26<\/strong> Discounting Self<\/a><\/p>\n 27<\/strong> Responses<\/a> – 29<\/strong> Who\u2019s in Charge?<\/a> – 31<\/strong> Being at-Cause<\/a> – 42<\/strong> Leadership<\/a><\/p>\n 55<\/strong> Oxygen<\/a> – 59<\/strong> Hesitation<\/a> – 80<\/strong> No Is Information<\/a> – 86<\/strong> Don\u2019t be Yourself!<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The villagers took a round about way to their place of worship because of the snake. Finally the headman went to the Holy man and explained the problem. The Holy man said “OK walk back straight down the hill, right beside the snake.” Once they saw the snake was harmless everyone walked straight up. Soon […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[31,41],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-88","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-limitations","7":"category-relationships","8":"entry"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=88"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=88"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=88"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=88"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nThis is exactly<\/span> what happens, every<\/em> time:
\nFirst they chide you. Then they slightly avoid you. Then\u00a0(within<\/span> 2 weeks)<\/em> they act as if nothing has ever been said, and<\/strong> no longer expect you to always do the extra. When you do offer, they’ll actually appreciate it \/you rather than expect it.<\/p>\n