Your mind works as follows: <\/p>\n This is the source of guilt! <\/p>\n And the amount you deviate from that abstract = the amount of Guilt you feel.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n My father did all his work and, on Fridays, would\u00a0go to a movie. <\/p>\n Review your composite-abstract-ideal. A fresh perspective could lessen or eliminate the guilt. (Don’t accept the ‘abstract’ that Guilt is \u2018good’, now you know where it comes from!)<\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n ————————–<\/p>\n These are related:<\/strong><\/p>\n 23<\/strong> Become More Creative<\/a> – 31<\/strong> Being at-Cause<\/a> – 48<\/strong> Saying No<\/a> – 55<\/strong> Oxygen<\/a> – 59<\/strong> Hesitation<\/a><\/p>\n 71<\/strong> Nice<\/a> – 86<\/strong> Don\u2019t Be Yourself!<\/a> – 96<\/strong> Habits<\/a> – 99<\/strong> Perfection!<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Your mind works as follows: You do NOT compare this o with this O\u00a0to conclude one is larger than the other! You absorb all of the o‘s you have ever seen, and overlay them to arrive at a composite-abstract-ideal. Most \u2018o‘s are almost the same size because most \u2018o‘s come from reading. You compare each […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[15,22,42],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-95","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-emotions","7":"category-guilt","8":"category-response-ability","9":"entry"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/95","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=95"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/95\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=95"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=95"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mentaldoodle.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=95"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nYou do NOT compare this o<\/strong> with this O<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0to conclude one is larger than the other!
\nYou absorb all<\/span> of the o<\/strong>‘s you have ever seen, and overlay<\/strong> them to arrive at a composite-abstract-ideal<\/em><\/strong>. Most \u2018o<\/strong>‘s are almost the same size because most \u2018o<\/strong>‘s come from reading.
\nYou compare each \u2018o<\/strong>‘ with that composite-ideal in your head.
\nAnd then you say the first \u2018o<\/strong>‘ is (let’s say) 1\/2 the size of the one-in-your-head and the second one is 4x the size of the one-in-your-head. THEN you say the big \u2018O<\/strong><\/span>‘ is 8 times the small one.<\/p>\n
\nYou have an abstract-ideal in-your-head for everything. Absolutely everything.
\nThink of an ideal \/favorite meal.\u00a0(play the game!)
\n<\/em>Would you be alone?\u00a0 \u00a0… With others?\u00a0(play the game!)
\n<\/em>Would there be music?\u00a0 \u00a0… Flowers?\u00a0 \u00a0… What color?\u00a0(play the game!)
\n<\/em>Candles?\u00a0 Shape?\u00a0 Color?\u00a0(play the game!)
\n<\/em>See, you even have it down to the color \/shape of the flowers \/candles in your abstract meal!
\nAbsolutely everything has an ideal-abstract in-your-head.<\/p>\n
\nHis friend (at the next desk)<\/em> would not. He said he felt guilty.
\nHe thought he was getting paid for being at the office for 48 hours (in those days!)<\/em> a week.
\nMy father thought he was getting paid for doing the job whatever time it took.
\nSooo when each compared taking a couple of hours off to their abstract-ideal-composite, one felt guilty and the other did not.<\/p>\n