33 Solving a 5

None of you deliberately create problems …or do you!

Here is the sequence:

1. You have a problem.

2. You have a desire to solve it.

No desire to solve it = no problem to you! It may be a problem (ie: going to the moon) but not to you, if you have no desire to solve it.

3. You generate energies to solve it.

Think of a sports team just moments before a game. The amount of ‘psyching up’ they do that works up energy is in direct proportion to how badly they want to win /solve the problem!

4. Time, Space & Circumstance.

So here we are, full of energy /desire to solve a problem and one of these three comes into play. Need the contract signed and the guy is away for a few days? Need to mail some bills by a deadline and have no stamps? And so on.

That is when, all too often, we do what I call “Solving a 5”

5. You create an artificial, solvable problem, and solve that.

He arrives home and slams the door.

She knows exactly what this means.

He manages to pick a fight. Again.

Once he successfully(!) uses up his excess energy fighting, he says, “Honey, I really don’t want to fight.”

She says, “Rough day at the office, dear?”

Understand # 4. Time, Space & Circumstances do change.

So when you’re full of energy and nowhere to put it, rather than create a solvable problem, look at past ones. Some of them may now be solvable. Then you arrive home tired but relaxed after a productive day.

From now on ask yourself,  “Is this a real problem or a 5?”

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