Ask politely and directly for what you want.
Take a chance on getting slapped, you might get kissed!
People are mostly the same. A good restaurant is a good restaurant to almost everyone. So is a good book, or movie.
Quite often we allow unstated barriers to prevent us from asking for the very thing the other person also would be pleased to have happen.
Suddenly they stared at each other and one blurted out, “Let’s get out of here! This is a lousy movie!”
As simply as that they did something they both wanted, but normally wouldn’t do.
Keep It Super Simple really works well.
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11 Feedback – 22 Attitude – 32 Red Light, Green Light – 58 Needs – 59 Hesitation
60 Patterns – 89 Initiating – 95 Ring/Knock – 99 Perfection! – 103 Ring/Knock Part 2
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in one place. Here they are!