Feedback Works! You're in a car doing 80 in a 60 zone. You pass a police car with a policeman in it. Who does nothing. The … [Read more...]
15 K.I.S.S.
Ask politely and directly for what you want. Take a chance on getting slapped, you might get kissed! People are mostly the … [Read more...]
16 Follow Up
Remember this? Ask politely and directly for what you want. Take a chance on getting slapped, you might get kissed! Well there's a … [Read more...]
27 Responses
"You stole my bicycle." What you are going to do about it. "You stole my bicycle." Well, it would seem that way, but I did … [Read more...]
38 Carrier Wave
"Just thinking more about 'you get what you think about'. As a parent I constantly fear my son will come to harm. From stopping breathing as … [Read more...]
71 Nice
A visitor /repairman came to fix my (elaborate!) Television. Because of missing parts and trouble with customs he ended up staying 3 … [Read more...]
77 Nine Cows
Two University students became friends. After graduation one invites the other to visit his island. Upon arriving it turns out he is … [Read more...]
80 ‘No’ Is Information
Are you hungry? No. Do you want to buy this car? No. Will you stay for my whole speech? No. Do you … [Read more...]
81 Second Impressions
Someone at a reception smiled a hello and shook my hand warmly. Later I saw him sneering at one of the waiters. And, later still, talking … [Read more...]
84 The Communication Process
Fights at home? No progress at work? Things just not going right for you? Unless really desperate, we ignore communications that can … [Read more...]
89 Initiating
When you shake someone's hand, just who is shaking whose hand? And the simple answer is: you both are. Yet the person who initiates has the … [Read more...]
95 Ring/Knock
When do you answer the telephone? Only after /when it rings, and more than once. If it rings only once you don't answer. When … [Read more...]
99 Perfection!
You don't want to be perfect. I knew a lady who did not speak English 'properly'. She would say "Hi, youse guys" when greeting … [Read more...]
105 Silent Additions
"The building is falling!" Quick, what's your reaction? Assume the statement is true. "The building is … [Read more...]
110 Nothing
To interact with strangers we use a device that is very effective: nothing. We don’t call it nothing, we call it Ritual. Ritual is a … [Read more...]
135 Excuses
Everybody needs an excuse to change their mind. To change your mind without one is to somehow be wrong in the first place. And nobody … [Read more...]
145 NO Feedback
See how quickly your eyes skipped over the blank space between the title and this line. There you just did it … [Read more...]
147 Interpretation Part 2
I didn't say he stole the money. What subject does the sentence above describe? (Play the game = get the … [Read more...]
158 Anarchy
What if no one is in charge? That's what happens when you destroy an idea someone has without putting forth an idea to take its … [Read more...]
179 Mirror
Don't be a mirror. Why wait three days to answer his email? Because he waited three days to answer mine! Why … [Read more...]
189 Twin
Consultants are effective. They come into a company, look around, then give advice that works. We don't take that advice because we … [Read more...]
198 Repetition
When you respond the exact same way to every situation then you are not responding to events, you are establishing sameness. ie: … [Read more...]
202 Compliments
We stood and formed two rows, as asked. "Now give each other a sincere compliment." Fat chance that's going to work, I … [Read more...]
204 Apologize /Forgive
They are the same thing. To not Apologize /Forgive someone is to indicate you have a reason not to. My friend never forgave her … [Read more...]
213 Rockets
My head of country for Australia was very good. She would treat the Sales people very well. However she was missing one … [Read more...]
215 Knowing
Count the number of 'F's in this simple sentence: Finished files are the result of years of scientific research. (Play the … [Read more...]
216 Lies
Lies are basically wishes-in-disguise. The fish was THIS big. I wish the fish was this big. I am a rich person. I wish I was a … [Read more...]
218 Something
Saying "Stop that!" won't get a child to stop doing something. Because, then the child has nothing. And no one wants nothing. So, … [Read more...]
231 Statement
A statement is a close-ended thing. "I can't do this." A question is open-ended. 'Why can't I do this?' "I … [Read more...]
235 Ball Bearings
You know what they are. They are the tiny things that make the machinery work. Without keeping them oiled things screech to a … [Read more...]
248 Longs & Shorts
Short things can also be seen as cold things. Long ones as warm. An abrupt 'no' is Short /Cold. "Well, I will think about it … [Read more...]
260 Manipulation #2
When I ask you a question to which I know the answer, I manipulate you. Teachers do this to school children. With good … [Read more...]
267 Strangers & Ships
I am not as comfortable with you as I'd like to be. Oh, why is that? Well, you sort of act like a stranger to /with me. Hmmm, how … [Read more...]
270 Hamburgers
To make a hamburger you always start with the bun. Then you put some condiments ( mustard, relish, onions etc.) Then the meat. Then … [Read more...]
279 Point of View
My Daughter-in-Law was telling me how great Blockbuster (A video store chain) was. Pleasant your. Thats you view site I wanted do mode … [Read more...]
281 Ask, Speak
Take turns rather than always be the one to Ask or Speak. Even in an interview. Are you married? Children? How much … [Read more...]
288 Personality
How do you (or anyone) show your personality? Your words carry /broadcast only 10% of your personality. Your Tone … [Read more...]
292 Denying
Red scarves don’t bother me. OK. If you say so. But why don’t you say Red scarves don’t AMUSE me. Well, because they … [Read more...]
306 Parent-ing
Parents in China are all extremely well respected. And obeyed. After all, they know best. Years and years of experience, … [Read more...]
308 Red
You are being completely ignored in the very things that are important to you. And I can prove it! Imagine a … [Read more...]
310 Flexibility
If I am not flexible then I must restrict you to what I can respond to. I do this by: Finishing your sentences for you (but … [Read more...]
311 Telling Lies
Yes, of course I lie. So do you. In fact, I bet everyone lies in every country. "Am I fat?" "Am I … [Read more...]
313 Fact vs Opinion
Everyone has an Opinion. Opinions are not Facts, obviously. Yet most things we think /act on are Opinions. OK, … [Read more...]
317 90 Minute Cycle
Day ... Night ... Day ... Night ... An obvious Cycle. The 90 minute cycle is one you can use virtually every day of your … [Read more...]
320 Description vs Judgement
There is a difference between Description and Judgment. With Description you say almost anything you want and mean absolutely nothing by … [Read more...]
323 Perfect Person
Yes, I know you know people aren't perfect. Well, except when they criticize you. Then they magically become Perfect. Otherwise you … [Read more...]
333 Me Message
All too often I forget people have their own ideas, their own life, their own ... everything. That's when Me Messages come into … [Read more...]
339 Three Voices
Here is a technique I find very useful for me. I created three 'voices' in my head: Voice 1 always tries to agree with me Voice 2 … [Read more...]
353 Oil, Grease, etc.
We all understand the idea of bribery. It helps smooth the way, Grease the wheels, Oil the machinery, etc. Ok so? Well, … [Read more...]
364 Seven Years
My 7th year doing Doodles! Here's 10 Random Thoughts. (Just to be different.) 1. You change at 7 year intervals. Think … [Read more...]
365 Kitchen Table
I learned more around our kitchen table than probably anywhere else. I memorized more data in "school" of course. But it's … [Read more...]
387 Your Sub-Conscious Mind
Just say, “We want your wife to call now” anytime over the 3 days that I’m here. My wife would always call within a couple of minutes of … [Read more...]
407 Tell-Tale Adjectives
This one is so very simple yet extremely informative, and well worth reading! Just look for the adjectives. They tell the … [Read more...]
433 Labels #2
Just saw a movie called EXODUS.In the movie Moses and "God" work together to 'force' the Egyptian King to release the Hebrew people from … [Read more...]
443 Read a Book
A most unusual thing you do in life is, ... read a book!Think about it. Once written, a book never changes. It’s essentially a series of … [Read more...]
456 Magic Hand
So many people were surprised at how effective (#455) Magic List is. Here is another one just as effective... when you actually do … [Read more...]
463 Mirror, Mirror…
The whole saying is: Mirror, Mirror, on the wall, Who is the fairest of them all? OK, so? This is a 30 second exercise … [Read more...]
466 What I Mean Is…
When computers first became popular, while we learned how to program them, the saying was: Please give me what I want and not what I ask … [Read more...]
470 Then It’s Real
We all understand how we 'should' program our self. So, why doesn't it always work? Because it's not real. That's NOT … [Read more...]
475 Advertising Works
Advertising works on you through repetition. And you say 'Yes, of course it does.' without realizing just how effectively and subtly it … [Read more...]
477 Let Me Listen to Me
Which one do you think works best when interacting with others? * Let Me Listen OR * Listen to Me (ie: Let me give you some advice. … [Read more...]
478 What Do You Think?
"This is a movie so poorly written that it must resort to narration and worse (shudder), video blogging, as a way to hold its shambling, … [Read more...]
479 Yes and No
Saying NO when you mean NO and YES when you mean YES is really tension relieving, you should try it. Then you would feel much more … [Read more...]
485 Burns
Ever feel fed up, burned out, depressed? Do you do your best work at that time? No one does. I am willing to bet that … [Read more...]
487 Warmth
If there is no ‘warmth’ between two people there is no reason for them to be together. My friend and I debate a lot of various stuff when … [Read more...]
497 Lots, More & Less
How many ...whatever, are there? LOTS! There are Lots of schools: 98,817 in the USA alone! Lots of people: 330,000,000 in … [Read more...]
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