Imagine life is a Ferris Wheel. However, you get ‘paid’ only after it goes around. Whatever you load … [Read more...]
2 Normal Luck
When things go ‘right' I say I'm LUCKY. That, though, keeps me ‘here' with LUCKY over ‘there' One day someone asked me just how often … [Read more...]
3 Cumulative Knowledge
Although you are obviously the age that you are you also have in you, all of the 'previous' ages. You at 47 years old, also … [Read more...]
4 Common Courtesy
Because you can doesn't mean you should: Hit someone Think so much Put yourself down Constantly test yourself Deny … [Read more...]
8 Problem Solving
You can't solve something that doesn't exist. You can: Sweat it Worry about it Deny it Be proud of it, etc. But … [Read more...]
19 Expectations
Just read this from a respected coach & wonder what you think? "Although high expectations do occasionally lead to high performance, as … [Read more...]
22 Attitude
Obnoxious /annoying uncle Arthur invites himself to supper. How do you feel? Then you get a call from the Lottery people … [Read more...]
25 How Old Are You?
How do you treat a young child who's learning? Do you act impatient, sneer, put down, deride, complain and so on? Of course … [Read more...]
40 So What!
Many years ago my secretary, Monique, attended my training course. When we came to ‘Parental Programming' she said: "My mother used to … [Read more...]
50 Limits
Can you make one cent in a year? Two? Three? At some point you’re going to say no. Sooo, let's try the other way. A … [Read more...]
54 Self
Normally you first THINK you are something. Anything. Then you act on that. Which then gives you some input that you are. You simply … [Read more...]
58 Needs
We always get what we need. Or we'd be dead. But we don't always get what we want. We even say, "Oh I didn't really want it … [Read more...]
71 Nice
A visitor /repairman came to fix my (elaborate!) Television. Because of missing parts and trouble with customs he ended up staying 3 … [Read more...]
73 Killing Frogs
Do you know how to kill a frog? Most people think by placing a frog in boiling water you can kill it. But it just jumps out. The way to … [Read more...]
77 Nine Cows
Two University students became friends. After graduation one invites the other to visit his island. Upon arriving it turns out he is … [Read more...]
83 Being Wrong
As a consultant I deal with people. In one particular company we gather in their boardroom and start with a verbal report from each … [Read more...]
90 Good/Bad
It's impossible to understand something without also automatically understanding its opposite. Can you build stairs just going … [Read more...]
100 Ransom Notes
Bad guys take a newspaper, cut out certain words and reorganize them into a Ransom demand. And we all know the newspaper did not say … [Read more...]
109 Understanding
We tend to divide things into two: - Good/Bad - Right/Wrong - Day/Night - Yes/No And that’s a trap. (Black & White … [Read more...]
113 Success
You were born weak, small and completely defenseless. You could do nothing for yourself except eat and digest. And even then it had to be … [Read more...]
118 Right!
Some people walk around with food stains on their clothes. They believe that to admit they spill anything, is a mistake. They believe to … [Read more...]
123 Ignorance
If I want something and don’t see it and walk on, I am Ignorant. If I want something and do see it and walk on, then I’m … [Read more...]
136 Beggars & Alcoholics
Beggars & Alcoholics have a few things in common. Mainly I try to avoid them whenever I can! I cross the street. Refuse to make eye … [Read more...]
140 Making Progress
I learned from my parents from my birth until 10 years old. At that time my parents were 25 – 35 years old. Now I’m over 35 and still do … [Read more...]
146 Always Right
Do you know anyone who’s always 100% Perfect, 100% Right, 100% Knowledgeable? Anyone? I didn’t think so. Do you like people who pretend they … [Read more...]
148 A Wife is a…
A person has multi facets. Think of a cog wheel. All those cogs represent different subjects in that person’s life. And when two … [Read more...]
150 Rights
My wife called to ask when I was coming home because she had a particularly good meal planned and didn’t want to overcook it. I promised … [Read more...]
155 Do Not Disturb
Wilma came to my Self-Improvement class in a wheelchair. After two days she left the chair and walked around by herself! Oh, she was … [Read more...]
180 Reverse It
You rarely physically touch any other human being. Maybe a hand shake. So just how do you go about influencing each … [Read more...]
187 99% or 1%
It always has to add up to 100% The very first satellite was a simple radio transmitter sending "Beep, Beep" (1%) It took many huge radio … [Read more...]
192 Flow Tubes
Picture a bunch of tubes in the air, similar to telephone lines going from pole to pole. Lots and lots and lots of them in the air … [Read more...]
197 Obstacles, Your Key to Success
Coke and Pepsi are where they are because of each other. Not in spite of. Many years ago I started a 'Psychic' Fair. It … [Read more...]
199 Everything
Repeat after me: I am NOT good at everything. I will stop trying to be good at everything. Or 'implying' I am good at … [Read more...]
203 Either – Or
Often people polarize things into Do /Don't -- Yes /No -- Right /Wrong, ... annnd, you're for me or you're against me. That's one of … [Read more...]
212 Attitude Part 2
At one time you thought about how to handle a knife and fork, comb your hair, give a talk, dance. At one point in your life you did, … [Read more...]
217 Luxury /Waste
People want Luxury in their lives, but not waste. And there's your problem. "13 Bathrooms?? What a … [Read more...]
222 The Difference
All singers singing the same song use the same words. The same notes. Yet one singer is far more popular than … [Read more...]
225 Money
This one needs your participation to be effective. Pay close attention to your answers. (Ideally, jot them down on the … [Read more...]
226 Assertiveness
Taxi drivers in New York City are a realistic bunch. To drive in one of the busiest cities in the world, you do what works. And what … [Read more...]
229 Security
There are two types of Security. Internal and External. Internal Security exists when you believe you can 'create' … [Read more...]
231 Statement
A statement is a close-ended thing. "I can't do this." A question is open-ended. 'Why can't I do this?' "I … [Read more...]
232 Justify
Or learn. Those are the two things that can happen when something unwanted occurs. It's not my fault because... means I … [Read more...]
236 Part-of-Me
As I launch this new company, I remind my Partners why we will surely succeed. Because we can spot our errors /mistakes and correct them … [Read more...]
241 Re-viewing
We think re-viewing a situation over and over somehow helps. We believe we will somehow come up with something we have not thought … [Read more...]
242 Gentleman
A gentleman and his nephew walk on the wooden sidewalk on their way to worship. A lady comes along wearing her finest dress. The man … [Read more...]
243 The 98%
In a very nice hotel while on African safari, there was a sign on my dresser top that said 'Thou Shall Not Tempt.' And I … [Read more...]
244 Everything and Nothing
We go through life with one of two basic attitudes Everything is allowed, unless specifically prohibited … [Read more...]
250 The Impossible Self-Image
You cannot build a hill that has only one direction. You may want it to go only 'up'. Fine, but it does go both ways. To take … [Read more...]
252 Threat
A threat is perceived when two unrelated subjects are presented at-the-same-time. . Eat all your vegetables or... I will spank you /you … [Read more...]
255 Prepare, Defend
To properly defend yourself, you prepare for all contingencies. You do all you possibly can, ahead of time. . And then one of two … [Read more...]
256 99 is Fine
99% of the time, 99% results is fine. 99% returned calls 99% money made 99% attempts to apologize 99% results in an exam 99% of … [Read more...]
257 Unknown
You can’t fear the unknown. If it is truly unknown. . So what you do is populate the unknown with a bunch of known-and-undesirable … [Read more...]
259 Don’t Stop
You don't know where to go or what to do next. So you stop and try to figure it out. Yet from where you are now you can't … [Read more...]
261 Adult Checklist
* Do you like to get presents ... or give them? * Do you try to get-away-with it ... or own-up to it? . Go To # 83 - 92 - … [Read more...]
262 Water Pump
Water waits to be pumped up for our use. It is not mean, nor does it have anything against you. The water responds exactly to … [Read more...]
263 Giving Credit
If you give credit when people do something that merits credit, they stay with you. Not think they are better and leave … [Read more...]
267 Strangers & Ships
I am not as comfortable with you as I'd like to be. Oh, why is that? Well, you sort of act like a stranger to /with me. Hmmm, how … [Read more...]
269 Circle
This one needs a lot of help to execute. Look at the related Doodles. ---------------------------------------------- A picture is worth a … [Read more...]
273 Propaganda
Propaganda: A 'description' of an ongoing process as if that very description was the final result. This is what manipulates you. … [Read more...]
274 Lawyers & Virgins
I was with a couple of 'lawyers' (barristers) eating a hamburger. This place offered 'free' refills for your drink. So they only ordered … [Read more...]
278 I Am
Don't deny you are anything. This includes: Bad /jealous /angry etc. Just realize that that's a millionth of what your total … [Read more...]
282 If It Is To Be…
The first time you set out to write a book /exercise /learn something you get no encouragement other than traditional family and … [Read more...]
286 Bias
He sat in a straight backed chair, in a quiet room, dressed in a three piece suit, with an appropriate back light and read … [Read more...]
290 Seeds
It's pretty obvious that what you sow - so do you also reap. Water the ground that has tomato seeds in it and you get... Tomatoes, of … [Read more...]
294 No Sweat
I get up at 5:15 am to catch a plane. He staples the hat to his forehead so they can take the shot of him without his hat blowing … [Read more...]
297 Circles & Spirals
You might think you are going around in circles. Which proves you're in a spiral. If you really were in a circle you would not … [Read more...]
309 Response
My wife woke up one morning feeling 'down'. I asked her if there was anything I could do to help. She said “No” I asked her if it … [Read more...]
311 Telling Lies
Yes, of course I lie. So do you. In fact, I bet everyone lies in every country. "Am I fat?" "Am I … [Read more...]
319 Look Back
A great source of concern for many is "The Future" The great unknown. It could go any-way, do any-thing. Will I be safe? The answer … [Read more...]
320 Description vs Judgement
There is a difference between Description and Judgment. With Description you say almost anything you want and mean absolutely nothing by … [Read more...]
321 Quality
Make a decision about Quality vs Quantity. Obvious: A large steak that's medium in taste or a smaller one, excellent in … [Read more...]
329 Seriously
Lower your heart rate, dilate your arteries, stimulate your appetite and burn up calories, ...without exercise! When you laugh … [Read more...]
334 Water in Car
I came home to see my (young!) sons washing my wife's car. With the windows down. Yep, LOTS of water in the … [Read more...]
343 One-Way Street
There are no one-way streets. There can't be. Any more than stairs that only go up. Or Uphill without Downhill. / Ok, … [Read more...]
345 Life is…
One of my largest changes happened when I decided that Life is somehow designed to be a series of Lessons. Others already know … [Read more...]
347 Boston / Paris!
A really upsetting event, to say the least! Yet, with complete respect, you 'need' to see this from another point of … [Read more...]
352 Expectations (Part 2)
People just out of a bad relationship look carefully at each new date for signs of what happened with them. That makes no one Of xtreme a … [Read more...]
353 Oil, Grease, etc.
We all understand the idea of bribery. It helps smooth the way, Grease the wheels, Oil the machinery, etc. Ok so? Well, … [Read more...]
355 Discarded Solutions
Your subconscious mind automatically looks at many solutions to find the correct one for a particular problem. OK, so? A … [Read more...]
356 Sequence
When things are in sequence, you don’t have to be. Looking up Zarbosky by starting at the letter ‘A’ is a total waste of time. On the … [Read more...]
357 Recipes
Do you always use the same 'recipe' no matter what you do? The fact this particular recipe works well in one situation does not make it work … [Read more...]
363 Ages of Experience
Is that guy ever an idiot! How does one find good help? I wonder why they don't fire him /her. Ignore your first 20 years … [Read more...]
365 Kitchen Table
I learned more around our kitchen table than probably anywhere else. I memorized more data in "school" of course. But it's … [Read more...]
366 Money Madness
Complete the following sentences: 1. I’m afraid that if I had money, I’d _________________ (Play the Game...) 2. Money causes … [Read more...]
370 Friend AND Foe
How to make a Friend a Foe and/or vice versa. Simple. 1. Choose something you really, really want to accomplish. Lose … [Read more...]
371 Chickens & a Compass
Every time you are successful with anything... raising a child, starting a business, etc. You have applied this type of … [Read more...]
377 Unit vs Range
We don't decide in Ranges. We decide in Units. Our decision is made based on what Unit it's in. No matter where in the Range the … [Read more...]
379 No Regrets
Ever do anything you then regretted? So, why did you do it? Because you did not know you would regret it. Because you did not have … [Read more...]
380 No Change
How to Change, Without Changing: 1. Worry about an Unsolvable-by-you situation. 2. Change your mind to stop worrying … [Read more...]
381 You Like?
What do these people have in common: Abraham Lincoln Andrew Carnegie George Eastman (Kodak) Marshall Field Henry Ford … [Read more...]
384 Sometimes
This is the magic word /concept to cause barriers to become filters. Is killing never good / always bad? The real life … [Read more...]
385 Stress and Distress
First the obvious: Stress is needed and useful in your life. Now the not-so-obvious: Distress is the single biggest contributor to … [Read more...]
388 Zone Sizes
We have different Zone Sizes for different things /subjects. Some Zones extend to events with asteroids. Some Zones 'only' to immediate … [Read more...]
389 Move the Triangle
Look at the diagram. Note: Stimulus is always the same. However Response depends 100% on where the Triangle is. The more 'left' the … [Read more...]
391 Smoke & Pray
If you Smoke while you Pray You are a despicable, insensitive, non-respectful person! However If you Pray while you Smoke you are a … [Read more...]
397 Nothing to Nothing
You enter the Theater and go up to the balcony. It's dark. No one is there. Soon a watchman enters and turns on some lights. Then … [Read more...]
403 Two-Day Sets
Tomorrow is not all that far away. We can easily 'see' what tomorrow brings. Want to call someone but afraid of bad news. Wait until … [Read more...]
404 “It”
When you identify some thing /idea someone says, as being 'it' ...how do you know that? Yet, down deep, you know 'it' is the right thing / … [Read more...]
405 Become Unsane
Between sane and insane is unsane - the world of the possible. You currently only believe in predictable possibilities. Yet one of … [Read more...]
406 Desperation
There are two main conditions under which we learn: Inspiration and Desperation. Desperation, we try to avoid if possible. So we … [Read more...]
408 You don’t say!
* Don’t judge yourself by your past. You don’t live there anymore.... right? # 14 Eliminating Triggers … [Read more...]
413 Self Defense
The person 'attacking' always considers attacking appropriate. So ignore that person (!) What causes you to decide to defend … [Read more...]
416 Eight Years
My 8th year doing Doodles! Here's 8 Random Thoughts. 1. My personal favorite Doodle is still 37 Or Its … [Read more...]
418 A Hundred Million
By now you likely know that Robin Williams committed suicide. Not died. Committed suicide. OK, so? Well over 100,000,000 people … [Read more...]
420 Complaints
Absolutely nothing is more useless than complaints, ...sometimes. Typical complaints: * The Weather * Traffic * City Noise/ … [Read more...]
422 It’s My Fault
No it isn't.It never is. Unless you refuse to accept that others also have their own free will.To choose, to decide, to act. If … [Read more...]
424 Percentages
This one is simple.Yes = 100%No = 0% NOTHING is ever 100% or 0%You would even kill someone (typically a no = 100%)if you knew you would … [Read more...]
427 How to Win
Pick a number between 1 and 10...9Isn't it interesting people tend to answer only in proscribed parameters. Knowing that, now pick a number … [Read more...]
428 Cycles vs Always
This one is a bit obvious but needs reminding every now and then.First, a Cycle:This is a series of repetitive events similar to: night, … [Read more...]
430 ETI, Consider the Math
“The Universe is far bigger than the biggest ‘biggest’ you can imagine.” Latest estimate: 70,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 … [Read more...]
431 ETI, An Advanced People
“There! Did you notice a glint of light coming from your left? “It’s just like the others said. “I’ll bet it’s aliens.” says the MBUTIS. (a … [Read more...]
433 Labels #2
Just saw a movie called EXODUS.In the movie Moses and "God" work together to 'force' the Egyptian King to release the Hebrew people from … [Read more...]
434 Advice
Give me a really good haircut this time.Sure, why? What's happening?I'm going to Rome to meet the pope.How are you going?By boat.Hmmm, the … [Read more...]
435 Transparent
You never think about /mention the color yellow.Why not?Because yellow is truly transparent to you. How much money do you want? How … [Read more...]
437 Push-ups, Right Now
You cannot win (or lose!) a race simply by doing Push-ups.Therefore you relax while doing them. (Stress is, well, ...stressful!) Ok, … [Read more...]
438 Gold & Not-Gold
There is no such thing as impure gold. It’s either Gold or it isn’t.You decide what is Gold to you. “I just spent an hour putting on my … [Read more...]
440 Reverse Sense
Would you say to a three year old: Please play with the stove. And while you are at it, stick your fingers in the electric socket. … [Read more...]
441 Some Never Lies
The entire world is based on Lies.Most of the time we don't care because it does not affect us personally. Ok, so?What to do when it … [Read more...]
443 Read a Book
A most unusual thing you do in life is, ... read a book!Think about it. Once written, a book never changes. It’s essentially a series of … [Read more...]
444 Another View
I probably learn more through Another View than by any other way.Seeing from different points-of-view is an extremely enlightening … [Read more...]
449 Little Green Men, Today
The latest round of UFO sightings started around the mid 1940’s or so. Co-incidental to when we started to have reason to ‘look up’ and … [Read more...]
452 Pamper Yourself
When was the last time you pampered yourself? And what did you do?Do you pamper yourself because it feels good or because there is a reason … [Read more...]
454 Soft Edges
At prime time the 'free' computer game I play requires money to play without delay.However, it only asks for money a few minutes after the … [Read more...]
458 Two Minutes
You smile as a reflex... after being happy, not before. You frown, after feeling frustrated. First you are anxious, then you tense … [Read more...]
459 Just One
Have trouble getting what you want? - Want to Exercise? - Write a book? - Slim down? While I was intending to write my … [Read more...]
460 Volume Works
One half of the Ceramics class was asked to make a 'perfect' vase, the other half's goal was to make as many as possible, in the same … [Read more...]
462 Sooner
If you are going to do it anyways, do it 'sooner'. Optimize the situation. Paint it now and enjoy it longer. Diet now and … [Read more...]
466 What I Mean Is…
When computers first became popular, while we learned how to program them, the saying was: Please give me what I want and not what I ask … [Read more...]
468 Nine Years!
Writing anything once-a-week for nine years is impressive, even if I say so myself! Now, to place this in perspective: * In … [Read more...]
469 Right & Wrong
How tremendously 'old fashion' to think that there is still such a thing as a Mistake. Oh, sure, we get things wrong once in a … [Read more...]
472 One More
Let's say you see 5 ways to do something. Add One More. How many ways to climb a ladder? Climb on the Outside, Left side, Right side, … [Read more...]
475 Advertising Works
Advertising works on you through repetition. And you say 'Yes, of course it does.' without realizing just how effectively and subtly it … [Read more...]
477 Let Me Listen to Me
Which one do you think works best when interacting with others? * Let Me Listen OR * Listen to Me (ie: Let me give you some advice. … [Read more...]
478 What Do You Think?
"This is a movie so poorly written that it must resort to narration and worse (shudder), video blogging, as a way to hold its shambling, … [Read more...]
479 Yes and No
Saying NO when you mean NO and YES when you mean YES is really tension relieving, you should try it. Then you would feel much more … [Read more...]
480 Why Not!
Why not seize every opportunity to take pleasure? When you pass by candies, why not pop one in your mouth? Why not seize every single … [Read more...]
481 Plenty
Part One I have a refrigerator, so do you. Mine lasts over 10 years, so does yours. Hmmm, everyone has a refrigerator and they all … [Read more...]
482 Projectors
My wife and I rarely agree on anything. (Even after 48 years!) When we agree on something it's usually because it can withstand our … [Read more...]
483 Celebrations
I have to celebrate I need to celebrate I get to celebrate Which one causes you the most pleasure? I would eliminate … [Read more...]
484 Optimize
I went directly to one store and immediately bought my ideal (4K) television. Nice! The set was marked lower than the manager … [Read more...]
485 Burns
Ever feel fed up, burned out, depressed? Do you do your best work at that time? No one does. I am willing to bet that … [Read more...]
486 Double Win
I want to win... double compared to the effort I make. Ok, so? That's why I love it when I make a mistake. When I … [Read more...]
489 Deserve vs Desire
I know you are now getting what you Deserve... as a result of your actions, your decisions, your repeated efforts, your agenda, … [Read more...]
491 Always Yes/No
I'm planning my new house. I start with absolutely everything I could possibly imagine in it. (Why not!) I quickly eliminate anything … [Read more...]
493 A Perfect Day
First, a Perfect day checklist. Do you normally: * Talk /yell /whisper /think to yourself out loud. (# 464) * Forget your … [Read more...]
495 Just a Second
At what point in time, what, ... S E C O N D do you decide things. You call me 'sir' because I am older than you, okay. But … [Read more...]
500 ETI & What we Do Know
Many take advantage of the ‘unknown’ aspect of Aliens (ETI) to claim various sightings, abductions, contact, etc. Which ones -- if any -- … [Read more...]
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