You cannot draw a line using only one point as reference. You need at least two points. OK, so? Well, you also need two events. Two. Not just one. How many things now influence you based on experiencing just one event. One time. One point. The Boston Marathon comes to mind. So does any … Read more
There are two main conditions under which we learn: Inspiration and Desperation. Desperation, we try to avoid if possible. So we ignore a ‘bad’ or unwanted situation because to see where it leads is to look Desperation in the eye. Then one day the whole thing deteriorates and you become desperate. And you … Read more
Tomorrow is not all that far away. We can easily ‘see’ what tomorrow brings. Want to call someone but afraid of bad news. Wait until tomorrow. Need to pay a bill that’s expensive. Wait till tomorrow. OK, So? Take advantage of the fact you already use tomorrow to push things off. But emotionally. Worried … Read more
Steve needed $550. by 11am. And he’d pay me back in three days. He knew precisely how much he needed, when and for exactly how long. I felt bad for him, not because he didn’t have the money but because he knew his situation exactly. There were no unthought-of places where he misplaced some money. … Read more
We have different Zone Sizes for different things /subjects. Some Zones extend to events with asteroids. Some Zones ‘only’ to immediate family. Zone Sizes vary. OK, so? Well, consider your Zone of Worry. How far does it extend? Someone’s child is out too late, … halfway around the world. Does your Worry Zone Size extend … Read more
First the obvious: Stress is needed and useful in your life. Now the not-so-obvious: Distress is the single biggest contributor to shorten your life. Centenarians (people 100+ years old) overwhelmingly cite being able to effectively cope with Distress, as the MAJOR common denominator to their long, healthy lives. “The usual recommendations—not smoking, not drinking, … Read more