They are the same thing.
To not Apologize /Forgive someone is to indicate you have a reason not to.
My friend never forgave her husband for doing something really stupid.
– She wanted him to leave her.
My wife forgave me from
something I did many years ago.
– She wanted me to stay. (44 years and counting!)
People always have a real message.
The not Apologizing /Forgiving is simply the method they choose to send it.
Next time, ask yourself: “What are they trying to tell me with this choice of words?”
Annnd, if it’s you, either not Apologizing /Forgiving, … tell. them. why.
Strangely this admission will actually ease the situation.
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To reinforce this read any two below:
# 7 Disaster – 27 Responses – 132 Taking it Personally – 151 RevengeThey are the same thing.
To not Apologize /Forgive someone is to indicate you have a reason not to.
My friend never forgave her husband for doing something really stupid.
– She wanted him to leave her.
My wife forgave me from something I did many years ago.
– She wanted me to stay. (44 years and counting!)
People always have a real message.
The not Apologizing /Forgiving is simply the method they choose to send it.
Next time, ask yourself: “What are they trying to tell me with this choice of words?”
Annnd, if it’s you, either not Apologizing /Forgiving, … tell. them. why.
Strangely this admission will actually ease the situation.
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To reinforce this read any two below:
# 7 Disaster – 27 Responses – 132 Taking it Personally – 151 RevengeC’est la même chose.
Ne pas s’excuser/pardonner à quelqu’un indique que vous avez une raison de ne pas le faire.
Mon amie n’a jamais pardonné son mari pour avoir fait quelque chose de réellement stupide.
– Elle voulait qu’il la quitte.
Mon épouse m’a pardonné pour quelque chose que j’ai fait il y a plusieurs années.
– Elle voulait que je reste. (45 ans et je les compte!)
Les gens ont toujours un vrai message.
Ne pas s’excuser/pardonner est simplement une méthode qu’ils choisissent pour l’envoyer.
La prochaine fois demandez-vous: “Qu’est-ce qu’ils essaient de me dire avec ce choix de mots?”
Et, si c’est vous, que vous ne pardonniez /n’excusiez pas … dites leur pourquoi.
Étrangement cette admission va actuellement faciliter la situation.
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Voici des liens:
# 7 Désastre – 27 Réponses – 132 Prendre personnellement – 151 Revanche