All too often we forget just how ritual-istic Compliments are.
Especially if an ‘inferior’ pays a compliment to a ‘superior’ (ie: Child to Parent)
What would they know.
Or ‘superior’ to ‘inferior’. (ie: Boss to Employee)
He’s just being kind because of his position.
We almost never, as equals, trade compliments.
So how to really give a compliment to an equal (or a superior) and make it count?
Simple.
Mention the compliment to another person, but within earshot of the intended recipient.
I tend to ignore most compliments,
but I always accept those I ‘overhear’ about myself.
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# 110 Nothing – 115 Give, Get – 202 Compliments All too often we forget just how ritual-istic Compliments are.
Especially if an ‘inferior’ pays a compliment to a ‘superior’ (ie: Child to Parent)
What would they know.
Or ‘superior’ to ‘inferior’. (ie: Boss to Employee)
He’s just being kind because of his position.
We almost never, as equals, trade compliments.
So how to really give a compliment to an equal (or a superior) and make it count?
Simple.
Mention the compliment to another person, but within earshot of the intended recipient.
I tend to ignore most compliments,
but I always accept those I ‘overhear’ about myself.
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To reinforce this read any two below:
# 110 Nothing – 115 Give, Get – 202 Compliments Trop souvent, nous oublions jusqu’à quel point les compliments sont rituels.
Spécialement lorsqu’un ‘inférieur’ donne un compliment à un ‘supérieur’ (i.e. un enfant à un parent).
Qu’est-ce qu’ils en savent.
Ou d’un ‘supérieur’ à un ‘inférieur’ (i.e. de patron à employé).
Il est gentil juste à cause de sa position.
En tant qu’égaux nous échangeons rarement des compliments.
Alors comment donner réellement un compliment à un égal (ou à un supérieur) pour que ça compte?
Simple.
Mentionnez le compliment à une autre personne mais à portée d’oreille du récipiendaire visé.
J’ai tendance à ignorer la plupart des compliments mais j’accepte toujours ceux qui me viennent à l’oreille.
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Voici des liens:
# 110 Rien – 115 Donner, recevoir – 202 Compliments