A statement is a close-ended thing. “I can’t do this.” A question is open-ended. ‘Why can’t I do this?’ “I don’t know how to.” ‘How do I learn to?’ One keeps you where you are, the other gets you where you want to go. “This is my best.” “How can I improve?” … Read more
“Oh, I can’t approach him, he just got a raise.” Everyone ADDS each event to all previous events and bases their response on the total: * He is furious because the raise came too little and too late, … once again! * He is now silently looking for another opportunity. “I want to tell you how … Read more
There are two types of Security. Internal and External. Internal Security exists when you believe you can ‘create’ something. External Security comes when you take comfort from things around you and ‘appearances’. (ie: Clothes, furniture, flashy car, etc.) I am Internally Secure and married an Externally Secure person. We have gone through ‘Security’ … Read more
Everyone is equipped with an automatic transmission. Many gears, ‘automatically’ changing to accommodate your desire for speed. You simply need to accelerate a bit before it automatically changes to the next gear. So, why say this? We never accelerate lest it become the new reality and we are stuck working 24/7 and lose life’s … Read more
She promised to give her new child, Susan, what she never got. Long hair. Her mother used to always cut her hair “too” short. Years later Susan promised to give her new child what she never got. Short hair. And you are now promising… Why not let them (young and old) determine what they want. … Read more
Taxi drivers in New York City are a realistic bunch. To drive in one of the busiest cities in the world, you do what works. And what doesn’t waste time. Or unnecessary motion. They signal their intent to change lanes and then proceed to do so. Yes there are cars in the other lane, … Read more