Many years ago when I smoked, a friend offered me a Cuban cigar (Legal in Canada!).
He only had two left.
If I took one – and he did – there would be none left.
So I politely refused and thanked him.
That’s when he got mad at me.
“What’s wrong with you,” he said. “Why can’t you give a little?”
“But I am giving” I replied. “I’m refusing to take your last cigar, much as I’d like it.”
“That’s exactly what I mean,” he countered,
“By refusing me the pleasure of giving, you take away from me.
Anyone can buy cigars. Not many can enjoy sharing their last one with a friend.
You give me that by taking it.”
Think of a child offering you something they made.
Their increased pleasure when you take it from them.
Give by taking.
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