Often we harbor Resentment for something someone did to us. Or didn’t do!
A sleight in front of others, no credit when credit was due, etc.
Well, that’d be Ok if that was all that happened when you felt Resentment. Just that feeling.
However the next ‘automatic’ part is Resistance.
Whenever something happens involving this person you exhibit some resistance to whatever they are asking /saying. And that simply adds fuel to the fire, so to speak. YOU are now feeding this.
And even then it’s understandable if it weren’t for the next (and last!) part: Revenge. Should there ever arise an occasion where you could do something crucial (or not do something crucial) and that would result in getting some sort of Revenge on that person, well then you’ll most likely do that!
Now this seems a simple illustration of what a normal cycle of human behavior looks like.
And that’s true.
However, no
one else was there for the first two stages (Resentment & Resistance) so your action of Revenge is not seen as a third part but rather as a complete-by-itself thing. And you are silently judged by that.
Do you want to be seen as a revengeful person? With no apparent reason for your actions! Is that what you believe would enhance you with your friends and co-workers?
It is one of the harder things to do but the next time you start to feel a Resentment build up, let it go! (See # 132)
Certainly if you are already at the Resistance stage, then definitely let that go. (See #13)
Many people will admire you for not taking any action when they see (and they do!) you are being slighted. (See # 81)
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These are related:
# 13 Changing Change – 18 Being Triggered – 27 Responses – 81 Second Impressions
132 Taking it Personally
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