When computers first became popular, while we learned how to program them, the saying was:
Please give me what I want and not what I ask for!
The ‘computer’ obviously could not figure out what we meant by what we said.
Ok, so?
Every communication with another human being is the exact same situation.
To bypass the need to be extremely careful as to how you say something,
just explain ‘Why’ every time you ask /want /say something.
Then, because it’s a person, they can compare what you say with the ‘why’.
AND listen to their comment /response should there be one.
That’s it.
Do it, otherwise you might as well talk to a computer.
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