80 ‘No’ Is Information

Are you hungry?
No.

Do you want to buy this car?
No.

Will you stay for my whole speech?
No.

Do you get negative /bad emotions hearing ‘no‘?
Realize the other person actually exists and is conveying information about themselves, not commenting on you.

Are you hungry?
No. I just ate.

Do you want to buy this car?
No. I’m your competition, just trying to see why you’re so successful.

Will you stay for my whole speech?
No. I have an important appointment but I can stay for the first half.

Once you understand people have their own individuality and simply express themselves, then ‘no‘ becomes Information-about-them rather than a negative reflection about you.
This is their information to you and not about you, you, you.

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