If I put myself down before you do, you won’t /can’t put me down. I point out my flaws before you do, so I am ‘safe’. I deride myself first, just in case you might. Listing my Boo Boos is survival for me. Do you like people who always do this? Isn’t it somewhat … Read more
All too often I forget people have their own ideas, their own life, their own … everything. That’s when Me Messages come into play, If you don’t like what people say to you then rather than attack or keep silent, try a Me Message: “I feel bad /hurt about what you are saying … Read more
I wash my hands before eating = Filter I must wash my hands before eating = Barrier When camping you would get very hungry! No eating at drive-ins. etc. Our Filters define us whereas our Barriers limit us. Ok, so? The other day I went to work without realizing I had not combed … Read more
If I am not flexible then I must restrict you to what I can respond to. I do this by: Finishing your sentences for you (but my way!) Deliberately mis-understanding you on certain issues. Mis hearing your words. Acting confused about obvious things. When you see others do this, realize they are simply … Read more
This is just a guess: you are not a Sniper. So you don’t take infinite pains / time to aim and adjust and re-aim and re-adjust and… until you pass to one ‘perfect’ action. And so, because you are not a Sniper, your aim is off. Oh, just a little. Well, as it … Read more
Red scarves don’t bother me. OK. If you say so. But why don’t you say Red scarves don’t AMUSE me. Well, because they don’t. When someone protests that something does NOT … why bring it up in the first place? I gave a lecture on UFOs at a University. I came in late and pretended … Read more