Short things can also be seen as cold things. Long ones as warm. An abrupt ‘no’ is Short /Cold. “Well, I will think about it but I must tell you that I don’t believe I will say yes.” is a Long /Warm Both, of course, say the same thing. However we tend to like warm … Read more
You know what they are. They are the tiny things that make the machinery work. Without keeping them oiled things screech to a halt. Literally. In human terms, the oil is a smile, a thank you, an apology. Smile too much, apologize too much and you add too much oil onto your Ball Bearings. Things … Read more
A statement is a close-ended thing. “I can’t do this.” A question is open-ended. ‘Why can’t I do this?’ “I don’t know how to.” ‘How do I learn to?’ One keeps you where you are, the other gets you where you want to go. “This is my best.” “How can I improve?” … Read more
Saying “Stop that!” won’t get a child to stop doing something. Because, then the child has nothing. And no one wants nothing. So, what you say is “Oooh, loook at this!!” And the child automatically stops whatever they are doing and looks. At something. Do you have something/someone ‘useless’ around you because it’s better-than-nothing? Then … Read more
Lies are basically wishes-in-disguise. The fish was THIS big. I wish the fish was this big. I am a rich person. I wish I was a rich person. So when someone lies, you see what their wish is. This helps you interact with them a bit better. Same goes with yourself. You KNOW which things … Read more
Count the number of ‘F’s in this simple sentence: Finished files are the result of years of scientific research. (Play the game = get the results!) Most people are human (!) They substitute ‘knowing’ for seeing. When you don’t get the results you wish, take another look, this time with your awareness rather than … Read more