We stood and formed two rows, as asked.
“Now give each other a sincere compliment.”
Fat chance that’s going to work, I thought.
How could anyone believe a compliment was serious if it was ‘planned’.
Yet after looking at me for a minute the guy opposite me said, “I like your tie.”
Hmmm, had he said anything else I would not have believed him.
This new tie was particularly complementary as many people had mentioned since I bought it.
So a lesson was learned. (in 1967!)
A sincere compliment always works if it is, in fact, sincere.
So why say this?
Because sometimes we have relationship situations that seem hard to resolve.
Either because things have been shifting ever sooo slowly,
there’s no time when it is noticeable by any one action — yet the cumulative is there.
Other times because some problem /fight /argument has created an atmosphere hard to change.
To solve these relationship situations that seem to be at an impasse:
Give the person 3 compliments each and every day for one week.
Only three. Not 2 or 4. THREE.
And of course they MUST be sincere or this does not work.
That’s it.
Too simple?
Why?
It is quite simple yet it’s virtually 100% effective.
3 sincere compliments, each and every day, for one week.
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To reinforce this read any two below:
# 7 Disaster – 10 Progress It – 11 Feedback – 13 Changing Change – 27 Responses
75 Same – 121 Carrot & Stick – 135 ExcusesWe stood and formed two rows, as asked.
“Now give each other a sincere compliment.”
Fat chance that’s going to work, I thought.
How could anyone believe a compliment was serious if it was ‘planned’.
Yet after looking at me for a minute the guy opposite me said, “I like your tie.”
Hmmm, had he said anything else I would not have believed him.
This new tie was particularly complementary as many people had mentioned since I bought it.
So a lesson was learned. (in 1967!)
A sincere compliment always works if it is, in fact, sincere.
So why say this?
Because sometimes we have relationship situations that seem hard to resolve.
Either because things have been shifting ever sooo slowly,
there’s no time when it is noticeable by any one action — yet the cumulative is there.
Other times because some problem /fight /argument has created an atmosphere hard to change.
To solve these relationship situations that seem to be at an impasse:
Give the person 3 compliments each and every day for one week.
Only three. Not 2 or 4. THREE.
And of course they MUST be sincere or this does not work.
That’s it.
Too simple?
Why?
It is quite simple yet it’s virtually 100% effective.
3 sincere compliments, each and every day, for one week.
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To reinforce this read any two below:
# 7 Disaster – 10 Progress It – 11 Feedback – 13 Changing Change – 27 Responses
31 Being at-Cause – 75 Same – 121 Carrot & Stick – 135 ExcusesNous nous sommes levés et formés deux rangs, tel que demandé.
“Maintenant donnez-vous l’un l’autre un compliment sincère.”
Il y a peu de chances que ça fonctionne, me suis-je dit.
Comment qui que ce soit pourrait croire que c’est sérieux lorsque c’est ‘planifié’.
Cependant, après m’avoir regardé pendant une minute, le gars en face de moi m’a dit: “J’aime votre cravate.”
Hmmm, s’il avait dit autre chose je ne l’aurais pas cru.
Cette nouvelle cravate était particulièrement une source de compliments depuis que je l’avait achetée.
Donc une leçon a été apprise. (en 1967!)
Un compliment sincère fonctionne s’il est, en effet, sincère.
Alors pourquoi dire cela?
Parce que des fois nous avons des relations qui semblent difficiles à résoudre.
Ou bien parce que les choses ont évolué tellement lentement,
que ce n’est pas remarqué par une action quelconque — cependant le cumulatif est là.
A d’autres moments, parce que certains problèmes / chicanes / arguments ont créé une atmosphère difficile à changer.
Pour solutionner ces situations relationnelles difficiles qui semblent être dans une impasse:
Donnez à une personne 3 compliments à chaque jour pendant une semaine.
Seulement trois. Pas 2 ou 4. TROIS.
Et, bien sûr, ils doivent être sincères sinon ça ne fonctionnera pas.
C’est tout.
Trop simple?
Pourquoi?
C’est assez simple, cepedant c’est pratiquement efficace à 100%.
3 compliments sincères à chaque jour pour une semaine.
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Voici des liens:
# 7 Désastre – 10 Progresser au travers – 11 Feedback – 13 Changer le Changement – 27 Réponses
31 Être en cause – 75 Même – 121 Carotte et bâton – 135 Excuses