Leadership

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121 Carrot & Stick

admin · February 8, 2009 · 1 Comment

No good trainer ‘trains’ using a stick. Not one.
Behavior that’s rewarded is repeated.
So how do you train yourself?
Do you chastise yourself when you do something undesirable?
Why?
Do you think that by being hard on yourself you’ll learn faster?
If that’s true then why don’t all the best trainers use a stick?

After your next mistake, check how many times you make this particular mistake.
If it’s just this once, let it go.
If many times, check if you chastise yourself with a ‘stick’.
Doesn’t work, does it!
So try giving yourself a reward. Silly as it sounds.
Consciously give yourself a reward fully knowing you are going against instinct. And setting a precedent.
To reward yourself after making this mistake is to show yourself that you don’t have to punish yourself to change.
You’ve tried everything else, why not give this a chance.

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These are related:

# 11 Feedback – 26 Discounting Self – 40 So What! – 46 Always – 47 Gold Stamps – 62 Context

90 Good/Bad – 96 Habits – 99 Perfection! – 100 Ransom Notes

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106 Plan B

admin · February 8, 2009 · Leave a Comment

You never succeed at Plan A.
Never.
Those who do succeed are the ones who have a Plan B.

Nothing you’ve ever done has succeeded just as you initially planned it.
Nothing.
Not even when to marry, who to marry, when to have children, how many, what job you have now compared to what you thought you’d get, etc.
Nothing.
Sooo, why plan?
Because you MUST have a Plan A from which you can then get Plan B.

In life you don’t even want what you claim you want.
I don’t really, really want a red sports car.
(I just like the idea that I’m the type that would want one!)
The seven year old wants what again? Why Plan A of course: candy.
Lord please give me what I want — before I stop wanting it.
And the 27 — 37 — 47 year old.
Marriage? Divorce? Remarriage?

So dutifully create Plan A, and don’t be surprised as /when it changes.
Successful people understand when Plan A becomes useless and allow themselves to be drawn to Plan B and then do that.
The non-successful ones stay with Plan A regardless.

Look for signs of, and start devising Plan B.
It never fails to surprise, when you open up to Plan B, how it’s all around you and has been for a while.

The key is to open yourself to it.

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These are related:

# 7 Disaster – 12 Change – 13 Changing Change – 20 The ‘Gift’ of Knowledge

37 Or Its Equivalent – 52 Correct Decisions – 63 Free Will – 74 Dictating Your Miracle

78 Process – 86 Don’t be Yourself! – 98 Third Time

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99 Perfection!

admin · October 5, 2008 · Leave a Comment

You don’t want to be perfect.

I knew a lady who did not speak English ‘properly’.
She would say “Hi, youse guys” when greeting her friends.
And, as her sales organization grew, she wrote a monthly newsletter (before email!).
Guess what her greeting in every newsletter was.
Yep.
“Hi, youse guys”

The head of the Company, upon reviewing this newsletter, said she’d help ‘improve’ her bad English.
“Why,” I asked, “would you want to change such a distinctive style.”
Well so that she can improve her English and become even more understandable by others.

“Absolutely not!” I countered, “That also takes away the individuality that’s uniquely her.”

Several years later we had a problem with this lady.
She won our highest award in two countries in the same year.
We had to invent a reward above and beyond what we normally give our top people.
And when we told her what it was, she answered
“Thanks youse guys.”

You don’t want to be perfect.
You want to be yourself.

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These are related:

22 Attitude – 27 Responses – 37 Or Its Equivalent – 40 So What! – 59 Hesitation – 60 Patterns – 64 Natural Talents

65 Wealth – 69 Labels – 81 Second Impressions – 89 Initiating – 95 Ring/Knock

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95 Ring/Knock

admin · October 5, 2008 · 2 Comments

When do you answer the telephone?
Only after /when it rings, and more than once.
If it rings only once you don’t answer.

When do you open the door?
Only after someone knocks.
If I knock on your door only once,
you may dismiss it as something else.

However if I knock 3 or 4 times in-a-row then you get the message.
The unmistakable message that someone is at the door.
Not the wind, not a mishearing.
Unmistakable.

In everyday life you may want to speak to someone, or have something happen, yet you just wait for it. Hoping.
Rather than knocking. Three times. In-a-row.

Think about what you want. More direct, repetitive action gets it for you sooner than waiting and hoping.

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These are related:

11 Feedback – 16 Follow Up – 35 One + One = Two! – 59 Hesitation

67 Personal Nag – 89 Initiating – 102 Response-ability

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92 Strength

admin · October 5, 2008 · Leave a Comment

What’s ‘stronger’ than a perfectly built fortress that needs 500 people to defend it.
One that requires only 100 people to effectively defend it.
And stronger still, only 1 person to defend it.

So far so good.

Now consider a fortress so strong the owner /builder spends his time with the attackers trying to find a weakness in his construct.
(And when he does, he repairs it.)

Rather than not daring to look and see if there are any weaknesses to his fortress /thinking.

Sometimes we are so very busy defending our thoughts /beliefs we just don’t see the gross error implicit in the very fact that we need to defend.

Attack your beliefs instead of defending them. And grow by leaps and bounds.

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These are related:

3 Cumulative Knowledge – 7 Disaster – 11 Feedback – 22 Attitude – 35 One + One = Two!

78 Process – 79 Truth Time – 83 Being Wrong – 84 The Communication Process – 85 Babies

86 Don’t be Yourself! – 89 Initiating – 90 Good/Bad – 98 Third Time – 99 Perfection!

100 Ransom Notes – 102 Response-ability