Here is a technique I find very useful for me. I created three ‘voices’ in my head: Voice 1 always tries to agree with me Voice 2 tries to never agree. Voice 3 is the contrary one. So if — at noon — I make a strong statement “It is daytime now.” Voice 1 … Read more
All too often I forget people have their own ideas, their own life, their own … everything. That’s when Me Messages come into play, If you don’t like what people say to you then rather than attack or keep silent, try a Me Message: “I feel bad /hurt about what you are saying … Read more
Yes, I know you know people aren’t perfect. Well, except when they criticize you. Then they magically become Perfect. Otherwise you would not forget that they may currently be in a bad mood. Or afraid they may be next to be criticized. Or just had a fight at home. Or… Well you get the idea. … Read more
There is a difference between Description and Judgment. With Description you say almost anything you want and mean absolutely nothing by it. You go on living as if that did not exist. With Judgment, when you say something about someone you then proceed to modify your actions accordingly. Good families scream and yell at each … Read more
Day … Night … Day … Night … An obvious Cycle. The 90 minute cycle is one you can use virtually every day of your life. It breaks down into two parts, 45 minutes each. The first 45 minutes is best called “Present” The second 45 is “Review” The first 45 is then, … Read more