31 Being At-Cause

When you spill something you simply clean it up.
You know you are at-cause of this.
When someone feels bad over something you say, you apologize.
You know you are at-cause.

However, consider a drunk driver coming in your lane, for example.
You are at-effect in that case.

The point is not that you are at-cause in everything you do, (although a strong case could be made, in my opinion!) but far more at-cause than you realize.

Too many times you stay your hand or lower your voice or step away physically or mentally.
Too many times you automatically assume that you are at-effect and “better safe than sorry”. That’s when to remember that you are at-cause in most things. And because of that you could easily give yourself permission to go, do, be and have those things that you’d normally not even consider.
“I had better not question the sales clerk, after all what if they get the wrong impression about me.”
Becomes
“Let me clarify what this person is saying so I can make a better decision.”
Because, being at-cause, I can always say something, when I finally do understand, that’ll make this person feel good about themselves and therefore me.

I am at-cause in most things.
I have to remember that when I hesitate.

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These are related:

23 Become More Creative – 27 Responses – 28 Getting What I Want! – 29 Who’s in Charge?

34 Thinking Positively Negative – 37 Or Its Equivalent – 38 Carrier Wave – 41 Elephants

42 Leadership – 43 Desire – 44 After – 45 Problems – 46 Always – 51 Hindsight – 54 Self

55 Oxygen – 56 Headaches – 83 Being Wrong – 86 Don’t Be Yourself! – 87 Barriers

88 Will Power – 89 Initiating – 102 Response-ability – 103 Ring/Knock Part 2