110 Nothing

To interact with strangers we use a device that is very effective: nothing.
We don’t call it nothing, we call it Ritual.
Ritual is a routine we go through which we all know means absolutely nothing.
And that’s the whole point, that’s why it works!
How could anyone get offended when nothing is being said or done.

How many people, including family and friends, do you basically run a ritual with?

Remember the more ritual = the less said.
When you say ‘nothing’ … well, that can happen anywhere and with anyone.
That’s why your marriage is the way it is.
That’s why you have the friends you have.

Now for the hard part! Stop rejecting yourself in case they reject you.
Open up a bit more and say some genuine things instead of nothing.

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