219 Control

Not being in control of something does not mean it’s out of control. It simply means you are not the one doing the controlling. Take the Internet. No one ‘controls’ it. Yet it is not out of control. In fact it’s not anything. Like a multi-billion page book, to be used anyway you choose. Your … Read more

202 Compliments

We stood and formed two rows, as asked. “Now give each other a sincere compliment.” Fat chance that’s going to work, I thought. How could anyone believe a compliment was serious if it was ‘planned’. Yet after looking at me for a minute the guy opposite me said, “I like your tie.” Hmmm, had he … Read more

198 Repetition

Wenn Du in jeder Situation in immer wieder exakt der gleichen Art reagierst, dann reagierst du nicht auf ein Ereignis, sondern du etablierst Gleichheit, d.h. Kontrolle. Nun, das ist sehr gut, wenn es eine Einstellung zur Problemlösung ist. Aber nicht so effektiv, wenn es jedes Mal ein herzliches Lachen, ein breites Lächeln, maßlose Höflichkeit oder … Read more